Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Wow I was having a great day yesterday. But then last night thoughts creep in again, felt miserable this morning. Wife left after 24 year marriage a little over 3 months ago. I decided to go no contact on Saturday, I read somewhere give this at least 60 days. I think this is good advice, every time we emailed or texted it was like a happy shot, only to be left unfulfilled and feeling like the break up just happened all over again. Deep down I KNOW I wouldnt get back with her at this point even if she wanted to try again. It would never work, this pain is too much and I could never move past that. Actually coming to this conclusion kind of helped me last night. I think Im getting there. Thanks for listening.
It's actually a good thing that you know that you wouldn't get back with her. That signifies a sure sign that in spite of the years you shared, you know its over and you aren't clinging to false hope or anything like that and that gives you a leg up in the healing department. It doesn't mean it won't hurt any less, just means you are more apt to keep facing forward instead of looking over your shoulder at what was like we tend to do when a relationship ends.
I commend you for sticking it out with NC. I've broke it a handful of times in the past and always regretted it. Always walked away feeling shittier and more empty than before.
Hang in there, friend.
Its probably hard to go no contact as during 24 years she was the one you went to, we seem to rely on those we always have relied on no matter what they have done. But you have to no, you can no longer rely on someone who can discard you so easily.
I hope you can get to that "indifferent" feeling soon so to start to walk down the new path waiting for you.
stay strong.
I also commend you for sticking to NC. I have broken it also so many times but I am back on track. Today is my day 1. But I am hopeful this time next year will not be as bad as it is now. This is a great site for support.
Peace and Blessings