Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I haven't posted in awhile because I was doing better and thought I was moving on. But of cause it only takes one thing to bring you back down. It has been a year since my divorce so I should be in a place that is beyond caring what he is doing. but my daughter told me that her friend saw my ex in the store he works in with a women .Now so far all his women have been the ones he has met on the internet that live in other states. I know this because he asks my son to watch his apt when he travels. Anyway her friend told her he saw him because he was saying how he has down graded that I am so much better then this women that she is fat and I am so much better looking. Now of cause all I am dwelling on is that he has found someone, not a fantasy women but someone he cares about. And I have to tell you I am letting it bother me more then it should, I don't know why, maybe because I am still alone. I don't know, has anyone been through this and can give me an idea why? I know I am better off without him and I don't want him back so why?
I have learned to use these moments as positive opportunities to learn and grow when they present themselves.
You already know why you are bothered by it--admit it, embrace it, accept it. You may be able to change the situation or you may be able to change how you react. Either way you should feel better.
((((HUGS))))
You are away from that now, but of course, it will always stir up that tingle.
maybe you haven't filled that space yet where he was. when our exes leave, there is a hole to fill. we have to fill it up with something or someone good for us.
it is so easy to just look back all of the time when we look forward and are scared or just feel inept. we all do it to one degree or another. but, sooner or later, we have to dream new dreams and come up with new goals and a plan.
and I think (as Patti had said to me at the time) it was really the last door slamming shut
and all those doors hurt when they slam shut
even if we're better off for them slamming
be aware of it, accept it, feel it, let it go when you're ready
you won't feel this way soon enough
Just keep concentrating on you and working on yourself and what you want in your future relationship. It will happen when you least expect it. You are going to be fine!