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diemjs
diemjs
My kids are going away for the weekend with their dad to another state. Im not sure if the gf is going or not.

Yesterday and the days before, I was doing well. Now that the weekend is getting closer, Im feeling more anxious.
How am I supposed to feel about this?
I need to just learn to let go. Its just so hard.

Sorry, just a small vent this morning.
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
I think you need to make sure you have some plans for those weekends when the kids will be with dad. I agree, you may just have to let it go.

I've had times when I start the "stinkin' thinkin'", especially on weekends--is he with her, are they doing something fun, are they making love right now, etc. I just push those thoughts away and tell myself there is nothing I can do about it so just forget about it. Difficult I know.

When I really struggle, I ask God to just give me an hour without pain. He always delivers.

Set those plans and start looking at the free weekends as new opportunities for fun and excitement.

Peace and hugs to you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
don't be sorry, let your feelings out here, no one to judge, just friends to support you during this rough time. i'm sure your feelings are very normal, your their mother. when we have them close by we know they are safe and we do not feel that anyone can take care of them better than we can, we know all their needs, moods, wants, thats what moms do. hang in there and even though you don't feel it, show them how excited you for them and tell them what a wonderful time they will have. then plan something nice for you while they are away.
diemjs
diemjs
THanks guys. I was just getting ok with him having them on the weekends HERE, but for him to take them far, Im scared!

And as far as she is concerned, I really dont care about him and her any more. Its her with my kids I cant stand:)

Im off to work...yeah for me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
My kids are grown, but I often wonder how I would have handled this situation if we had split earlier. This is so difficult. Your feelings have to be bouncing all over the place on this. But muster up your strength, and face it head on. It is the reality that you cannot change.

Your kids love you and that is all that really matters right now. Hope that they will be respectful to the ow if she is around, but know that in their hearts they would rather not be there with her. He shouldn't be including her in the mix at all at this point. Take deep breaths and try to push these fears and anxieties out of your mind, or at least put them to the side. BIG HUGS to you!