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"Getting Past Your Breakup" by Susan J. Elliot

HelpMeHelpYou
HelpMeHelpYou


Hello everyone, wondering who has read this book. I am working through it, and working through a breakup that is long overdue. If you have read the book, and have gone through or are going through 'No Contact' (NC), and know what I am talking about, comment with what has helped you with NC, and give me some advice for those moments I have anxiety and a desire to contact my ex. Thank you!

mirandac
mirandac
Why do you want any contact? How long has it been?

I did not want any contact he was unpleasant toward
Me so i gave up, that was even before the separation.
I never Knew who i would get so i was leery.

It takes a while to detach and to grieve your losses.
Call a friend and find buddies on here to PM each
Other for support.

Detaching and grief do cause some anxiety and
Stress from The breakup. Keep posting on here
and reading Your book.

I am two years of no contact except for The mail
And I moved out of town. It helped me to detach
From him, that took me 18 months. HUGS
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Yes I read this book and she also has useful YouTube videos about No Contact. I'm over 2 years total no contact after 24 year together. What helped me was actually breaking it over and over and getting hurt many times where I finally said enough. She made the choice to leave. It helps because you detach when they are completely out of your life.
HelpMeHelpYou
HelpMeHelpYou
@mirandac - I dont want contact, just looking for stories and advice on how to get through NOT contacting her. We broke up two years ago, and I never went through the grieving process. I finally am. Thank you!

@kbbcoop77 - I will have to check out the videos, thanks. Yeah, I broke NC a lot over the past couple of years, and each time my ex and I would start talking again, and both really try to make it work. It would be amazing for about a month, and then she would say she just cant feel it anymore. So, I have to stop, and move on. Yeah, I need to completely detach so I can finally move on and be genuinely happy, without this stuff constantly lingering in the back of my head. Thank you.
mirandac
mirandac
Breakup are tough i was very glad my ex did not try to
Come back. That generally does not work out too well,
redo's Seldom do. They are an ex for a reason usually.

It amazing i have avoided him this long And I only moved
13 miles away and i am very careful. One Day it will come,
I missed him at the tire garage by 20 Minutes luck was on
my side.

Not everyone can do that especially with children. They
Can try to keep it to limited no contact and numb up when
around them. Thats what i did during my separation, HUGS