Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am still trying to getting over breaking up with my longest ex. It sucks that it was a long distance relationship, but it slowly turned from a happy relationship to a mini hell. We started arguing every day at the smallest thing. One or both of us ended up depressed each day. She was a bit overly clingy, meaning that she wanted me around 24/7. I couldn't go hang out with friends, I couldn't spend time with my family, and she wanted me awake and talking to her until I passed out. This all began effecting my school work and sanity. Yet when we did get along and when we were happy, it was one of the best experiences of my life, she made me happier than I had been in a long time. Yet she could make me hate myself and bring myself down. I just became really attached to her, and it just feels wrong to not have her in my life. I want to get over her and move on with my life, because I feel like it is keeping me from my life, and trying to start dating again. Though I am afraid that it just won't be the same and that it won't feel right. Does anyone have any suggestions?
it could be that she feel insecure or trouble finding a balace within herself. the behaviour/attitude she has not only suffocating others but also herself as well. (being too dependent on others is bad for both party involved) And that attitude itself can also blind the person from seeing what is actually real (and cannot make rational/realitic decision) as their view gets too tainted from their unstability/needs/dependence.
Its an issue that arise from within and she needs to get in touch with her innerself to find balance/stability. you should suggest her to get professinal help.
Did she perhaps develop that sense of trying to be clingy because of the distance factor? That might be naturally what many would do or how they would react if they were seeing someone they hardly saw.
You had to be up and talking to her for long hours on the phone? - LDR at times work that way - all ppl can do is talk on the phone so they are doing this excessively because that their way of trying to make up for the absence of the other.
So it sounds that perhaps in your case the LDR situation might not have worked out and you might have to just accept that - many ppl can't make a LDR work.
With regards to moving on a dating again - give that time - it will naturally happen. Getting over a break up takes time.
Good luck.