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charliegirl29 09/10/2013

It's enough to have to go through abandonment issues andother things that weigh heavy on someone so when the threat of divorce looms it is extremely difficult not to sink into the pit of dark despair and let the anger drown your spirit. I found myself at the edge of reason and saying to myself....what is the purpose of all this if I can't even be in touch with my softer side. Why do I absolutely have to protect myself so much that I cannot be light hearted and just enjoy the touch of autumn that looms in the air and brings to the night a touch of sweetness that is only to be enjoyed by a heart open to its embrace. I think I am going to like getting in touch with my softer side. Thanks for listening and goodnight.

deleted_user 09/10/2013

What you are feeling is normal under the circumstances.... It is nice to let yourself to be,, just be.. Give yourself a break.

BlueKnight69 09/10/2013

Sounds nice Charliegirl...Autumn is a great time for change as it is the time of harvest. Inventory what we have learned throughout the year and let go of that which no longer serves us. Time to settle in and get ready for a nice, restful winter.

Good luck in getting in touch with that softer side...

charliegirl29 09/10/2013

Thank you both :-). Autumn is my absolute favorite season.

deleted_user 09/10/2013

Why does the coming of the fall have to be associated with impending divorce?

Break the association.

Enjoy one, prepare for the other.

I bullied my soft side, so it doesn't come around much anymore. LOL

gem111 09/10/2013

Good for you, charlie,
I'm so happy you've come this far that you are paying attention to those things. You are on your way!!!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))

deleted_user 09/10/2013

Charlie, absolutely go for it because you deserve it. I also believe it's being good to ourselves to open our heart and soul to see and enjoy, especially nature.

charliegirl29 09/10/2013

I really don't associate divorce with the season because I don't want to let anything ruin my favorite time of year. But every fall it feels like something has been lifted and I am able to enjoy things a lot more during this period of time. @ MstgD. I know what you mean. My soft side has been bullied as well....I wanted to have a thicker skin not a wall so big that noone could tear it down lol. Thank you gem. I have made a lot of mistakes. It's time for me to let go of a lot of things :-)

charliegirl29 09/10/2013

@ astimegoesby.....I find nature has some of the best therapy sessions :-). I have spent some time in therapy but nothing has ever been as healing a nature :-)

deleted_user 09/10/2013

Thanks for the post charlie. That's very inspirational. I can actually feel the tension and hardness when I am stressed about the past. The autumn is my favorite time of year, shedding the old and preparing to rest.

charliegirl29 09/10/2013

Yeah my first marriage had a Sept date so it really does not help matters all that much for me :-).

deleted_user 09/10/2013

HI Charlie............what you feel now is so normal.....you are coming out on top........just keep that in your head. one day it will make the trip to your heart :)

charliegirl29 09/11/2013

Ty. The thing of it is I am also losing my grandmother. I know there is going to be an up hill at some point but everything is going downhill at this point. It reminds me of after you exercise strenously and everything aches afterward and all you can do is relax..stretch out and let everything fall where it is suppose to go without being consumed by your exhaustion. Il actually feel weightless to a point because I had been carrying around so much anger and the pivot point has been seeing for the first time how much I have missed being weighed down by it.

deleted_user 09/11/2013

Fall is my favorite time of the year also. I am from Maine and honestly, I don't think there is a more beautiful place in fall. Of course I am biased ;).

charliegirl29 09/11/2013

I have not been to Maine but all bias put aside it is truly a beautiful place in the fall. A great place for anyone with a blank canvas :-)

deleted_user 09/12/2013

Spring actually makes me feel that way - I love spring. Everything is all new and shiny, and has such promise! Fall always makes me a little sad, because I know the long, cold winter is just around the corner - higher heating bills and all that damned snow to shovel! I think I need to move to a warmer climate.

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