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Getting Down On yourself

livefit
livefit

I find myself getting down on myself because I let my thoughts and feelings about someone who doesn't care about me anymore affect my everyday life.  I try to think clearly on it and try to find the root of the problem so I can hopefully cut it off.  What is our main attachment to the person who has or is leaving our lives?  For those of us who are in no contact with our ex's they have no clue on what were doing at this moment.  For all they know we could happily be living our lives.  I assume that my ex has completly moved on and that the thought of me doesn't enter her mind at all. That obviously makes me feel bad and brings me down.  The truth is I have no real clue of what she's is doing now or how's shes doing.  Our body always seems to assume the worse.  Even though I miss all the good times and how it felt when I was with her at the end of the day they "gave up" on us.  That should be more than enough reason to just walk away and take what we can from the realtionship.  No one wants to be with someone who doesn't put you on the top of thier priority list.  We are worth everything they are and more.  Its really easy to get down on ourself.  To lose our self esteem, to lose focus on whats really important.  We now have our freedom to find what truly is meant for us.  We now control our own destiny.  Each one of us has a heart of gold.  I'm not sure if we can say that about our ex's.  We have love, care, compassion, and loyalty.  We have the perfect recepie to attract the perfect person for us.  Let's do our best to not forget the person who we are and use to be.  

Nick2017
Nick2017
I know how u feel..I feel the same way many times and do not know why I feel this way..it is truly a phisical condition like the flu or something. I feel my body is numb my mind is numb, and my desire is numb. my emotion is out of wack...I am fighting it with possible logic but u cannot reason with a physical /chemical condition. so what can we do to fight this non sense emotion? it is engrained in us for millions of years so it's not easy to fight it...it is what makes us bond to each other but also what makes us suffer once that bond is I'll fated,
Nick2017
Nick2017
but as I search for answers I found that thinking of that persons weakness helps ...also thinking that its maybe a blessing that u are separated from this person ..or 3rdly think of this as a karma , a debt from previous life that u have to pay in this life in order to be free....if nine help .. seek therapy :)
Nick2017
Nick2017
also I am glad I found a man who has these emotions ..I thought only women have feelings and I am just abnormal or orvely sensitive. so after all it does affect men too.....
PhilipA
PhilipA
That was exactly what I am going through at this very moment. I was going to post something but you summed it up perfectly
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
The best thing we can do is just sit back and feel all the pain and emotions are they bubble to the surface. We really need to wade through the whole gamut to reach the other side. I know how you feel. I was married almost 25 years but as I look back now, I thing I was married one day. He was too controlled by his parents and sister. But you are on the right track when you wrote "We have love, care, compassion, and loyalty." We also have honour, trust and respect" My favourite is when you do see them. Smile, turn around and walk away. with head held up high, Being happy is our best revenge. That is what I do when I see him and his mother. Which, thank God is rare. Hugs my friend.
K8tlyn820
K8tlyn820
Thank you for your post. I think it might have been just what I needed before trying to get some rest, it brought some comfort to my situation and can hopefully bring rest to my thoughts. I hope you find yourself doing alright.
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