My wife and I have been going through an amicable separation and evolving our relationship into more of a coparenting and friendship status rather than being married. 

This has been painfully hard for me to swallow, however, I can say that every morning things get a little bit better. I just wanted to share some of the keys, I think, to why I feel that I've improved and start to feel stronger. 

1) I openly communicate not only my fears, but also my happiness and optimism for what's to come. My wife, in turn, has been doing the same. 

2) I focus on the positive. It's very easy to Google and find the negative answers you're looking for. Reverse those desires and look for the positive - Google will provide you with what you need, and that leads you down a much better rabbit hole. 

3) Grieve. I have to allow for grief. I have to be alone sometimes and I have to openly cry and not be ashamed of it. No matter how friendly a separation is, especially with kids, the pain is real and it's deep. But also realize it's not just you. Your spouse feels the same pain but may just show it differently.

4) Seek others. I found this community and it's been great. Find more. Find people that have gone through what you're going through and find guidance. Find people that are about to go through what you're going through and provide strength.  Don't play the alone game and don't be afraid to reach out to strangers and share your story. I've found just talking about it outside of my wife really helps me to understand myself and what I need, not just focus on where the pain is. 

5) Know that it gets better. I can't speak for everyone, but I can't imagine it getting worse than losing your spouse and the future you dreamt. So I've accepted that this part of our relationship has run its course, but that's allowed me to realize there is so much more to come in a different capacity. Obvoiusly not true for everyone as all separations are unique - but allow yourself to see the light and climb out of the hole.