Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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GiveMeWings 01/02/2008

I have two VERY close friends who will soon be divorcing. They are both like family to me. I've known them both the same amount of time and I am afraid I will end up losing one as a friend because their marriage will not work out. Any advice on how to prevent that from happening?

deleted_user 01/02/2008

stay neutral. Don't take sides.

deleted_user 01/02/2008

agrees with Mary

deleted_user 01/02/2008

I just posted this very thing today that I am losing one of my dearest friends b/c she and her husband have picked my STBX's side. Please assure both of them that you'll remain friends. They both need you now more than ever! It will change a bit, but do not let go of either. I cannot tell you how painful it is to lose a friend in this way. No one should take custody of mutual friends.

This can be done by not confiding in that one area of their life -- what happened in the marriage to end in divorce. You can be their friend in every other way, but stay out of the "why" of the divorce.

deleted_user 01/02/2008

has anyone else experienced someone who has a beef with you, using the divorce as an excuse to take a pot-shot at you? i know it's slightly off the topic. but they can take sides in this way too, trying to hurt you by pretending to take your stbx's side.

deleted_user 01/02/2008

my ex and i were that close couple that were divorcing of a good friend, sides were chosen and friendships were lost. i would suggest not to say any hearsay comments and give advice keeping in mind that it will be heard by other ears!

GiveMeWings 01/04/2008

Thanks, I appreciate the feedback.

#4 I am not sure I understand. Can you clarify for me?

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