It's not taken away. You just won't be going with that friend.

Well it is because i can't go on my own :(

Can't or won't?

MSgt is right. Why not go alone. I plan to do just that this weekend..no big plans but just to get out. I don't care how it looks. Why is it a big deal to go out alone. Besides..if your friends turn their backs on you in time of need are they truly friends?

yes jackie ive been experiencing this too, u r still feeling very raw & vulnerable right now, u feel regected by that fool so u r more sensitive to your friends turning down a night out, i dont think they mean it, its just that u r noticing it more now, u r feeling supersensitive xx

i will ask though how often has this been happening & has it increased recently?

& yes im suffering from a feeling of abandonment too darling

Your friends can't be your everything, just like your significant other can't. Sometimes things come up and people have to cancel. Got to learn to roll with the punches a bit more I think. And there really is nothing wrong with going out by yourself. I did that a couple of times when I first moved out. It felt weird at first, but then I got used to it. Maybe take yourself to a movie if you feel self-conscious. Nobody can see you're alone in the dark. It might also be a good idea to add some additional friends to your circle so you have more options.

I do think it's important to have some alone time as well to process your feelings. You can't cover them up by always being busy, or you'll never process them and they'll keep popping up at the most inopportune times.

I do understand the disappointment, but use that time to do some work on yourself. Look at it as an opportunity to get to know you better.

Sometimes - but I usually end up going by myself - especially if its something I've really been looking forward to. I have also found that if I am really up for social interaction - and I go alone somewhere - others can sense I am open for social interaction as well - and say I go to starbucks - and sit and read/people watch - occasionally someone ends up having a conversation with me - its just about being open to it or the setting you are in when you go out alone.

Go alone. You'd be surprised. Sometimes I have more fun going alone somewhere than I do with someones company.

xoxo

Yes. Happens infrequently but still more often that I'd like.

I always think its because they don't want to hang out with me, or don't want a 3rd wheel, or think I'm desperate, or divorce is contagious, or something. Usually after a while I talk my self down. Their kid really is sick so they couldn't leave them with the sitter, or really did have a family emergency.

So, I do this: I try to take them at their word when they tell me why they canceled. But, if they cancel more than once in a row, I stop asking them to join me.

I do however try to go when anyone asks me to join them. Even if I don't feel 100% up to it, I make it a point to go the extra effort to meet up with friends. This always pays off in my opinion.

yes... and after awhile, I was the type that just didn't ask anyone to do anything and would only go if the invite was extended. and even then, I only went to about 75% of the invites I got. People then just stopped asking, so I figured it was cus of me somehow. Little did I know that people took it as I didn't want to hang with them, like I was too good or something. They had no idea what was going on within. But I guess it was my fault cus I stopped going or asking or talking to them as well. I guess people like to be called or asked once in awhile and don't want to always have to do the asking or calling. But if anyone knew what I... or you.. or others who had been hurt real bad just were going through and really needed them to continue to reach out, maybe they would try harder to do that and not cancel plans. They would know that you really needed them to get you out and about.

but..

you can;t count on anyone for your happiness. I do understand that there are times we just need someone, anyone, to get us out of what we are sinking in to, but we can't expect them to and then get disappointed or annoyed if they don't, especially if they don't really know whats what.

So try to be patient with them and call again to make plans. or if they cancel, ask what they are doing the next night. it may just be about them wanting to be lazy or not feeling like going out and has nothing to do with you.