Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Dx3 02/27/2018

my husband and I separated last week. We have had problems for months and I found out he cheated in November and again in January. We were working on things and I thought things were going well. I couldn’t shake the suspicion of him being unfaithful. I dug until I uncovered the truth. I confronted him and in 3 hours he packed his things and moved back to his parents 8 hours away. I am devastated and broken. I still love my husband and want him to try and work on things but I don’t think he wants me anymore which is the most painful. How do others cope? I haven’t been back to work yet. Today I spent the day doing for myself but now I am home and all I want to do is call him and beg him to talk to me. Help

iae6 02/27/2018

I know exactly how you feel because I am going through the same thing. The reality is that you cannot convince someone who has already made up there mind. He has to discover and sort out his feelings on his own. Cheating is never because of the partner, but their own deficiencies. He is not whole and therefore he is searching for something that he feels like he doesn't have or that you can't provide. You have to let him go dear. As far as coping, I've went to the gym recently, signed up for this account, became more active in church, and I am starting therapy very soon. You have to keep busy, staying at home or laying around is never good. An idle mind can create a thousand scenarios you do not need to rehearse over and over again. It is natural to question why, but realize you can and you WILL get through this. when my chest feels heavy or that I am about to break I focus on my breathing. I hope this helps. ~a girl whose entire life came crashing down on 2/24/18

run2bfree 02/27/2018

Write down all the things that he did to really hurt you, then when you have an urge read them. It helped me. My ex, a fragile narcissits, was nice 20 percent of the time. Recently, I thought of one of the 20% and I felt lonely and sad, then I started to focus on the other big elephant in the room and it really helps

growthhurts 02/28/2018

I'm so sorry you're going through this. @iae6 is right and I would have to agree on pretty much everything. I understand wanting to call and talk to him, of course you still love and miss him! If you want to work things out, there is hope for your marriage. For now though, I would resist the urge to contact him. Keep yourself busy. I have read that even when one spouse has asked for a divorce, we need to remain strong, give them space. They may see you in a different light and be interested in talking things out. I wish I knew this when my ex husband left years ago....I felt so desperate. I would have done things differently. Take care of yourself. (((Hugs)))

stillstanding 02/28/2018

I journal regularly and found that if I'm feeling uncomfortable with being alone it helps to read back through muy journal in order to remember that there is a reason why i was miserable. Write down what you can....it helps.

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