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Forgetting about him

winesar21
winesar21
Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up two weeks ago. It seems like all I can do is obsess about what led to the situation we were in. It's all I think about 24/7. Even while i'm at work or with friends, I'm sure everyone is tired of me talking about it. I just doesn't seem like it will ever get out of my head, I keep thinking of all the things we had planned for our future and it bums me out even though the relationship wasn't the best towards the end. Will these feelings ever go away?!
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes, but you have to add things now. things don't fade until there are new, stronger things to focus on and do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Faithful is right......I was too this same way.....for awhile...just kinda slowly adjusting.......your still so young try to hang out with your friends....you gotta take your mind off of the obsession.....read!! Read....reading takes my mind off of my obsessive thoughts.....
winesar21
winesar21
You are right that i am young, and I can't think this is the end all be all. i do have to add new things in my life so the past fades away.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand what your going through, it definately is not easy. It has been 8 months since my seperation and I still have a very difficult time not obsessing. Walking, reading and spending time with people who are supportive and care really do help. Also group and single councelling have helped me stay strong. You will need to cry and cry some more but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. Some days will be harder then others but remember to take deep breaths and know that you will get through this. I never thought it would be possible, but I am still here and felling much better everyday ~Rebuilding when your relationship ends by Dr. Bruce Fisher~ is the book I am currently reading and it has already help me understand alot about my own feelings give it a try! My heart goes out to you, it will get better with time you will see :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm in the exact same boat. All I can do now is think on what the cause of the break up was & what I could have done better to prevent it.

I've learned that just going out & doing new things really helps. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Pamper yourself, that's what I do, I tell myself that he's missing out.

Of course, I still feel sad sometimes when the thought of my ex pops up. But I combat it by telling myself that, if he really loves me, he will come back. He has once, it could be possibly he will again. Only time will tell. Just try & stay postive & believe in him.