Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I wrote about my break up a few month back and since then got back together with my ex. We do love each other and there has not been any cheating. Our fighting and resolving fights became too much.
He promised me that he would do whatever it took to prove to me that he loves me and wants me back. I made my needs clear to him.
The most important thing to me is honesty and he knew that from day 1.
Things have been going really well for the last 2 months and I have been hopeful. He is seeing a counselor and working on his issues. We have been getting along pretty well and we just spent Thanksgiving with my family who were upset about us getting back together. We worked through that and had a nice holiday which again gave me more hope for our relationship and future.
Tonight he lied to me. The lie was not about something really bad like cheating on me but he made a conscious decision to lie to me. Basically he said he had to go home to be with his kids and his kids were not with him. They were at their Mother's house. Lying is a deal breaker for me. If your going to lie about something like that your definitely going to lie about bigger things.
The day we broke up he was on a dating website and part of getting back together was him building trust. He just destroyed all that had been built and I don't think I will be able to trust him again.
I love him so much and truly believed in him and us. We had so many plans and dreams and I was really starting to be hopeful only to have my heart and hopes shattered again.
I was not able to eat and lost a lot of weight when we broke up. I was devastated and fear it could happen again. I have to fight hard for myself and not allow that to happen. I feel like I did the right thing following my heart and loving completely and giving our love another chance.
I am crushed all over again and it hurts so bad.
He promised me that he would do whatever it took to prove to me that he loves me and wants me back. I made my needs clear to him.
The most important thing to me is honesty and he knew that from day 1.
Things have been going really well for the last 2 months and I have been hopeful. He is seeing a counselor and working on his issues. We have been getting along pretty well and we just spent Thanksgiving with my family who were upset about us getting back together. We worked through that and had a nice holiday which again gave me more hope for our relationship and future.
Tonight he lied to me. The lie was not about something really bad like cheating on me but he made a conscious decision to lie to me. Basically he said he had to go home to be with his kids and his kids were not with him. They were at their Mother's house. Lying is a deal breaker for me. If your going to lie about something like that your definitely going to lie about bigger things.
The day we broke up he was on a dating website and part of getting back together was him building trust. He just destroyed all that had been built and I don't think I will be able to trust him again.
I love him so much and truly believed in him and us. We had so many plans and dreams and I was really starting to be hopeful only to have my heart and hopes shattered again.
I was not able to eat and lost a lot of weight when we broke up. I was devastated and fear it could happen again. I have to fight hard for myself and not allow that to happen. I feel like I did the right thing following my heart and loving completely and giving our love another chance.
I am crushed all over again and it hurts so bad.
I thought he was a good person...but...I dunno. People don't change. My ex's problem is he projects his insecurities onto me. As soon as he stopped getting his way in everything, he panicked and suddenly couldn't see a future for us together...no ability to compromise. And why would he? We are fairly young and he's never been in a relationship long enough to really develop those skills.....but nevertheless, he did this to me twice.
I am so sorry for what you're going through. It's hell. I had hopes and dreams too. I was a trusting, forgiving person before all of this and that's been completely destroyed.
My advice would be detach yourself from him. You want it to work out, I know you do. But he will do this to you again. Make a list, hopefully a long list, of conditions he would need to meet in order for you to be together again. Be tough. Take some control back and if he isn't 100% willing to do everything, then he doesn't deserve you. And that's not you being unreasonable, it's him not being good enough.
I know this sucks. Keep going strong.