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So today is my H Bday, first Bday that we are not celebrating together (we've been apart but together) and even though it is his Bday it still hurts me not been able to celebrate as a couple, to hug and kiss him, to hope for many more Bdays together. Soon is going to be the first vacation that we don't spent together as a family, just him and the kids to see his family while I stayed home by myself. Lots of first coming up, is going to be a rough and painful year to go through all the firsts were their is no "us" or "we" but just me and the kids or him and the kids. Long road ahead of me - just hoping for a happy ending to this crazy wild ride.
Im going to add to the "firsts" thing in my way. As my STBX Bday just passed and the holidays are coming up, including what would have been our 17th wedding anniversary in two weeks. But I on the other hand am looking forward to my firsts. I no longer have to pine for days and weeks to try and impress him with gifts and duties. I don't have to fret over making everything perfect for him for each holiday. I look forward to watching the Macy's thanksgiving day parade with the girls IN FULL without him barking orders to the kids to start cleaning....I'm sure you get the point. I no longer have to play the "lets out-do each other" when it comes to surprises and gift giving. He destroyed the meaning of flowers and gifts in my eyes with his sensationalism.
This is where we get to make it our own, our way, in a way that makes us and the kiddos happy.
It is definately going to be a wild ride the next few months. But I look forward to it. I hope you can too eventually.
I agree with all the replies above. I am looking forwards to all my firsts. I have agreed with my daughter that as soon as he moves out we will start re-decorating the house in a way we both like. Without having to think of whether he would approve or like it, without having to think of what his taste would be or even giving him first choice or asking him his opinion on what colour he would like.
I am looking forward to my firsts. For such a long time I have put myself second and now I can put myself first. It is me now who counts!
It is so good not having to worry about whether he comes for dinner or not, whether he calls or who he is with. I know he has another woman and so be it, we've broken up, so it doesn't have to bother me anymore and that feels good!....