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First time being adult on my own...

hawky
hawky

My girlfriend, of 8 years, and broke up a week ago. We started dating at 18 years old, and I've realized, I don't know how to "be an adult" on my own.  Part of the reason we broke up was because of condependce, and I am seeing that strongly now. I don't know how to manage my feelings and emotions, by myself; without having someone to guide me. I don't know if you guys could share experience with this feeling, and how you coped? Thanks 

Jackie91
Jackie91
Sometimes breakups are the best changes in our lives. Painful, yes... but necessary. You learn and grow every relationship. If you can't live amongst yourself, and can't be happy; then how can you be in a healthy relationship? No one should ever make you feel dependent on them. You need to thrive, and to be able to best version of yourself. Once you continue on your path forward, you'll realize that you have more control than you think.
bridgie101
bridgie101
Blaze your own trail. :) That's the best way to live. Live your own way. Make your mistakes your own way, learn from them your own way. It's really hard being recently made single. It hurts, it's anxiety causing, you dont' know how to be. But give that period its space to change you, and you will come out of it strong again. You're going to be okay.
mtiger87
mtiger87
First of all, I want to say that I can definitely sense how uneasy you are about your current situation. After being with someone and sharing in responsibilities for such a long period of time, it would no doubt be a scary venture, but it’s certainly an experience that could be good for you and preparing you for the rest of your adult life.
Being single is a challenge in itself. Becoming self-sufficient to live on your own, make your own adult decisions can be daunting, but it’s something that you can certainly do. One of the things you can do is to ask people closest to you for advice. Another thing you can do is seek support through a counselor. Also, local agencies may be able to help you get what you need.
One of the Internet resources I can provide you with is <a href=” http://bit.ly/2wQsELN”> here. </a> In the meantime, I can offer up my prayers for you and your situation. You’ll get through it. Take care of yourself in the meantime.