Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello all! I'm so happy to of found this website. Heartbreak is something that no one should have to go through alone. I'm 27 years old and just got broken up with by my boyfriend of a year. Although we had alot of disagreements, ( we're both stubborn mules) I loved him, and i saw a future with him. Keep in mind that this was my only adult relationship as after I had my teenage heart broken I pretty muched swore off ever feeling like this again. I'm trying to be strong but some days its just so incredibly hard. The way he did it, telling me I'm not the one. That he does love me but that he just doesnt "feel IT". It being the feeling that I'm it for him. He said I was a good girlfriend and he doesnt blame me , he just doesn't want to waste any more of our time. This whole thing is probably for the better but I'm just waiting to see who he ends up with in 2 weeks.
Worst part is we have a lease together until July and he has no problem riding it out . Which has forced me to couch surf the past few weeks. He is unemployed ( which I think is the main reason for his unhappiness) and I can afford the rent on my own so I feel like I should have the apt. I just want to re decorate, make it my own. Get his stuff out of there. I'm sure hes dealing with his own guilt or termoil or whatever but I honestly dont care. I'm going insane. Back and forth from depressed to angry to guilty to stupid to think how long I was laying on his chest everynight and he was thinking how he could get out of this relationship. I just feel so dumb. He told me Im not the same girl he fell in love with, and now I see he is right. But if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. I feel like I'm just rambling. Nice to have people with the same heart ache to reach out to
Worst part is we have a lease together until July and he has no problem riding it out . Which has forced me to couch surf the past few weeks. He is unemployed ( which I think is the main reason for his unhappiness) and I can afford the rent on my own so I feel like I should have the apt. I just want to re decorate, make it my own. Get his stuff out of there. I'm sure hes dealing with his own guilt or termoil or whatever but I honestly dont care. I'm going insane. Back and forth from depressed to angry to guilty to stupid to think how long I was laying on his chest everynight and he was thinking how he could get out of this relationship. I just feel so dumb. He told me Im not the same girl he fell in love with, and now I see he is right. But if you love someone you should stick with them through the hard times. I feel like I'm just rambling. Nice to have people with the same heart ache to reach out to
Its ok in the end and I will give you all a new perspective on how to look at this. If your in a relationship that goes bad and breaks up . Just look at it this way. Those people showed you there true being. They came to a point in life where they were faced with a fight or flight decision and they chose flight. Meaning they didnt have the stamina to wait out issues and make it work. COunt your blessings to be rid of them now.
Think about a life with them ! Think about what would have happened if something really tuff was facing your relationship! You already know they are chicken shits and bailed so what would they have done if you really needed them to be there ?
Also please try not to idalize them. This is the first mistake we all make in a broken relationship. We think of all thier good trates and none of the bad ones. Well for the time being the healing will come faster if you shove them into the mud and muke were they belong. Tell yourself all there bad traits and all the rotten things they did and keep telling yourself that and how much better you are without them! tHIS WILL HELP HEAL YOUR HEARTS FASTER!
Best of luck !