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First Thanksgiving without her for 19 years
All my neighbours talking where they are going and who with.
And I feel I have nothing to be thankful for
I have no family here and feel my whole life is lost
I cry and feel so bereft
How did life come to this?!!!
All my neighbours talking where they are going and who with.
And I feel I have nothing to be thankful for
I have no family here and feel my whole life is lost
I cry and feel so bereft
How did life come to this?!!!
My X and I separated a week before Thanksgving 2009. I live in another state from my entire family. He took my son for TG because, usually, he does and I was a hot mess. That was my "messiest" time. Anyhow, my Mom, bro, sister, and nephew were in Disney that week, so I really didn't have anyone to "bug" because who wants that while you're in DW?
Anyways, it was hard. I stayed home, cried, cried...cried some more. I got up a did a little Black Friday shopping to feel "normal", (that is the only day I remotely enjoy shopping). It was terrible.
It was my first.
I am moving into this TG being the fourth year we haven't been together and the third we have been divorced. It isn't hard anymore. I actually don't even connect my separation being at TG time until I read posts or get a reminder.
My point is that it does suck. It does. It probably won't suck less next month. Its OK to feel like crap...you're human. People discussing their plans aren't trying to be mean or anything, they are just discussing.
One day, you will be done with the "first" and you won't have to experience it any more. It will get easier, I promise. Hang in there :)
Thankful...thankful...I seem to recall having heard that word before. I"ll have to try looking it up before Thanksgiving and see what I can come up with. Breathing, being alive, a roof over my head, my sweet cat (except when he bites my nose, then he's a bad kitty kitty), good friends both IRL and here. Especially the good friends here.
I just found out via my son that my STBX has left yesterday for TG with his family about 2 hrs away.. hmmm and we were supposed to meet tonight at 6 his idea to discuss our division of stuff.
It actually made me cry that I hadn't even known he was gone. Its going to be hard to adjust after 27 years. I hate him right now, really really do. Questioning why this is happening.. hoping the next chapters in my life will be the answer to the question.