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First step taken

willows4u
willows4u
If you read my very first post a few days ago about which road to take, you will understand this more. Today I took the first steps to divorcing my husband. I met with the attorney and paid the retainer fee. My husband will be served some time next week.
kenjb47
kenjb47
I pray you find peace in your decision and hope that everything goes as smooth as possible for you. Divorce is tough, no doubt about it. Take It one day at a time.
introvert61
introvert61
Good for you, willows! Do you have a plan? Are you and the kids going to stay with your folks? Do you plan for hubs to move out? Try to get your ducks in a row for whatever scenario might take place.

I hope you will stick with this...it's going to be difficult at first, but it's vital for you and your kids to have some semblance of normalcy in your lives.
joejoe1969
joejoe1969
You made the right decision and that took a huge amount of courage to take that first step....stick to your guns and don't look back. you need to do what's best for you and your kids. It took me a long time to get out of my unhealthy marriage of 15 years but I ended up a better person in the long run.
willows4u
willows4u
Thank you all for your responses. In the initial divorce papers, I keep the house until the youngest graduates from high school. I get primary custody during the school week and he can only have them when he is not drinking. I would imagine he will move in with his brother who lives only about 10 minutes away but I don't expect it to go well when he is initially served.
I miss sleeping in an actual bed. I have had the couch for several months. I am feeling very anxious and even though he is behaving tonight and we had a decent conversation when he got home from work, I know there is another attack coming soon.
ltwist
ltwist
You got this Willow! Wow, you sound incredibly smart and determined.

I hope you get a great nights' sleep in a bed.

Stay strong girl.
sakuraowl
sakuraowl
I am so happy you took that first step , your kids may not know it now but you did the best thing for them and for yourself. You have to take care of yourself now, save your strength , this is the first step but one of the biggest you will take. You are on your way to more peace in your life. There will be bumps , just put your seatbelt on and relax as much as you can. They say you never really know the person your with until you divorce them. He may lash out , I hope not . My husband asked me for a divorce and I tell you , three months ago I would never think my husband has the personality he has. I think when you end a relationship you will start to see the ugly . Just hang in there and one step at a time.