I know this is hard, Summer. But it will pass, I promise. My daughter went through the same last year. I went through it, well, again recently. It isn't about you being smarter, prettier, or better in any way. It isn't about you. Most people just don't stay together from 14 to forever. Think about this, did you have a favorite toy when you were little, and it got lost and you thought your heart would break? And now you can look back and yes, it was very hard then, but it's okay now?

I hope that didn't sound like I was minimizing. I remember my first boyfriend and how hard that was. And, like I said, I am going through it again. That's why I'm here.

Hey Summer, like Mitsou said, most people don't stay together from 14. It is very rare people marry their high school sweethearts. I remember I had my first love in high school but of course it didn't last. It hurt at the time, but most break-ups hurt. What you're going through is very normal. You'll feel that it is not, but believe me it is. There are going to be times, when anger comes, then jealousy. It's ok to have those feelings, but don't let it control you. You'll find later on that there will be more important things besides relationships. I'm sure when you're done with high school and go to college, relationships will be put to the side. You are young and you'll have plenty of time to find your true love. Hang in there. And continue to reach out if you need. We want to listen and want to help each other out.

Sorry for the suffering you are going through, but as you get through this you will be stronger than ever before. Teens, especially in this generation have so much easily accessible to them that many become somewhat self absorbed. I'm not saying you are but I suspect your ex boyfriend was being selfish and not thinking of you when he decided to have such an insensitive break up. Remember this side of him. Don't just remember the fun, because fun will happen again with people who value true friendship and you more. Chin up and look ahead of you. One day the only thing you will remember of this is how it made you into a stronger, more thoughtful, young lady. Bless you, Summer.

I am so sorry you are going through this! Break-ups are hard (at all ages) and it will take time for you to feel better. It's ok to cry and feel sad. As far as making the pain go away, I have have found it helpful to spend time with friends, even if you don't necessarily feel like doing things. Try to stay busy. Continue to do all the things you like doing- movies, shopping, sports, etc. This will help you you to feel better.

I have read lots of self-help articles and I have found this tip helpful. Prepare 2 lists. 1) list the things that were not great in the relationship (no relationship is perfect) and 2) list the positive things you can do now that relationship is over that you could not do before. (even if it does not seem important). When you are feeling down read both of these lists. It seems silly but it does help you to put things in perspective and move forward. Give it a try. Feel free to reach out again.

Do you like to read? Draw? Do you have a dog or cat that you can hug? I remember when I was younger, when my grandmother died or my boyfriend broke up with me, I did things to take my mind off. I cut up old dresses that were pretty and made pillows for my bed, I drew fairies for my friends. I played music in my room and danced. These days, I grow gardens and try to come up with yummy dinners the kids will like. Think about you right now, what might you enjoy?

I feel the same way you do, it is so hard to wake up everyday knowing he's. not gonna be there for you, it's like how did "good morning beautiful" turn into " I don't want you anymore". It's hard tho but listen to music or do what you love. Do things that will take your mind off of him

Hi Summer, Thanks for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your break-up. It’s understandable how you feel. I know you don’t deserve to feel this way. I see you are a loving and caring person. Also, I’m sure he feels the same way as guys deny their feelings. Please know that you are beautiful and no one should make you feel any less and if they do they are not deserving of you. I can tell you that you are very worthy and your life is very valuable. There is no man who can take this away. I know your life is worth the fight. Please know you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It’s a 24- hour confidential hotline. They can talk to you when you feel this way and help with preventive measures. Also, you can call; The Samaritans it’s a 24-hour confidential hotline at (212) 673-3000. The Samaritans can help you through anything. Hugs and we are here for you.

First love is always the hardest, for all of us. Gentle hugs