no matter how grown up we are we still are children to our parents.your mothers support will help you.the warmth of mothers love has a kind of healing effect.share your feelings .moms presence it self is a pillar of strength. one kind word from her will remove the huge burden of feelings we carry with us.mom is the only person before whom we cry like a child we need not hide any thing from her.no matter what mom always supports and guides.

I think it's great you can still go to your mom. My
Mom passed in May and my Dad passed three years ago. I still have family but it's not the same. Nowhere to turn to. I am truly happy you are able to speak with her about this. Cry toher and lean on her. That's what parents are for.

My 80 year old mother has been such a blessing through this mess. I have screamed and cried to her and she is just there, by my side. I never thought at 50 I would need a parent so desperately. They have seen and heard it all.

I was afraid to tell my mom because she is a very judgmental and critical person. Also, she has never been in my corner for any problem or challenge in my whole life. I thought she liked my stbx and felt like I was lucky to get him. I kept putting it off and putting it off. My sister, who I was confiding in a lot, kept telling me to tell mom. She said, "Mom may surprise you. She doesn't think as highly of stbx as you think." Finally, she convinced me to tell my mom and when I did, her reaction stunned me. The first words out of her mouth were, "What took you so long?"

Years ago, stbx called my mother and complained a lot about me. He told her a whole bunch of lies too, things HE had actually done. He told her how I spent his aunt's inheritance on myself. She called me the next day very upset and said, "Samantha, how could you have done that?" I said, "Mom, think about it. I drive a 17 year old car that leaks oil, I buy my clothes at Goodwill and garage sales. If I spent all that money on myself, where is it? Have I taken a vacation recently? Do I have a new car? Did I get a boob job? Where did the money go?" She thought about it for a minute and then it was like she snapped out of the spell he wove and she said, "That son of a b*tch! He tried to pull the wool over my eyes!" Ever since then, she has not liked him or trusted him one single bit. She said she was waiting for the day I would divorce him.

Parents can really surprise you.

yes my mom surprised me as well. She just said it's okay you'll be fine. And I just felt like such a failure as I told her but I know she does not judge me and just want the best for me and the kids...

MD sorry about your parents. I lost my dad 4 years ago and since then I don't think I've been the same either. Maybe that's when I stopped noticing my husband because I just needed to keep on moving and not fall apart as I was pregnant with my second then.

Luckily she will come see me and the kids during Christmas. I need to have someone in my life that supports me 100%. Not with conditions like my husband. That's the part that hurts the most - wasn't marriage supposed to be for better and for worse??

That's what they say. For better or worse. But that only applies if both mean it. And my wife is still playing games. asking me why she should give me another chance. Getting upset when I'm out with my friends and she can't understand why people aren't questioning why she's not there with me. She's either really super ignorant or playing real dumb. So annoyed. Wish I could talk to my parents.

Your wife is very confusing. What the heck does she want!? Though not sure which is worse - my husband is convinced he cannot be with me or have a little bit of hope. Either way we are miserable....