Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I married at the age of 23. Things never worked well for both of us. There had been some issues for the last couple of months and I tried a lot to solve them. But, things started getting more worse each day and I started to lose hold of it. She has always been bossy with me and at most times, I initiated for a patch up. But she never feel loved and satisfied , no matter how much I try to make it out. As the day passed, I realized that we are not living, we are just pretending to be someone else which we can never be! This was killing me inside and I used to feel so frustrated about it! I wanted to break this shell and breath some fresh air! Finally, I decided to divorce her and when I spoke about this to my wife she seemed to look plain and cold, she not even bothered to owe me an apology for shattering my life. Really felt frustrated then. Yesterday I met one lawyer from http://www.monteithbaker.com and discussed this issue. He suggested me to make a final talk with my wife, but I don't believe that will play out. So we are moving towards it! Now I feel relaxed and calm. Finally, I can live the live as always dream of! Fingers crossed!!!
"I am not surprised when people leave, I am surprised when they stay"
I think we all make mistakes and bad choices but prolonging misery is a waste of our lives. As much as people hate that divorce rate is on the rise, sometimes we have to ask ourselves if we are staying because we don't want to add to the number of divorced people, if we are fearful, etc. In my opinion, marriage is a great thing but if people feel trapped or unhappy, staying just because we made vows seems like a trap and torture to me.
Don't even feel like your wife is cold, mean or whatever. No one truly knows what the other person feels and most of the time when one is unhappy, so is the other one. Everyone copes and reacts differently. I would say, try to part ways the most civil, respectful way possible.
Best wishes to you.
When in doubt, be the bigger person and part civilly and respectfully.
His lips kept moving but I couldnt hear him or speak because I was in such pain, shock,......pick a word...it wont describe what I felt. He broke every promise he ever made to me. Every vow...but still he says it was all my fault.