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final divorce papers delivered....................

ollieollie
ollieollie

Hi there, im new to this site. its been a couple of days since i received the final divorce papers and it means i am now legally divorced after a 12 year marriage.  Im so sad, upset n angry, my tears have been flowing every since i got the papers.  People are now saying to me yippee your now divorced but wait a minute............. I dont know how to bring myself to say goodbye to 12 years of marriage and a relationship with him.  Its so hard, the betrayal, the lies, the emotional abuse and mind games never ended but thankfully that doesnt exist any more.  Thankfully we didnt have any children although that is a heart ache to, we tried IVF twice but it failed.  he didnt even console me that day, i was so devastated and a huge amount of grief came over me.  I have suffered from severe depression for 30 years and only have just recently been diagnosed with psychosis and this has come about since i recently had a psychotic episode and was in hospital for approximately 5 weeks to discover that i needed to be put on more drugs. 


Every night i cry myself to sleep and just hope n wish that how i feel will all be gone in the morning.  If anyone can send me a hug id really appreciate it.  many thanks. x

justjackie28
justjackie28
Hugs to you... support around you is so important .. even a kind word from a stranger makes it a tiny bit better... I hope you find peace soon and I hope this message makes you feel a little less alone ❤️
ollieollie
ollieollie
awwww thankyou so much sweetpea. it means a lot. and thankyou for the hugs. xx
Nicobeblessed
Nicobeblessed
Ollie, I hate to say it but time will help. Please make sure you talk to a professional counselor or therapist. Depression is seriouse. God bless and I'm praying for you.
Jamesglen
Jamesglen
Ollie. Hugs to you. I thought i was not going to make it after my first 27 divorce. But after about a year and a half i woke up one morning and all the pain and craziness was gone. Hang in there it will get better.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
It will be hard but surround yourself around people that are super supportive. Seek out more friends and family. Only you know how to help yourself but take in everything you can read and find. You have a purpose, you are now freer to focus on that purpose and that reason you are here. Seek out your purpose your goal your challenges.
Show others how to make it through the quagmire of this stage of life. Give others hope and strength through your strength and perseverance.
Always vent here we are here to help.
Lavender80
Lavender80
Ollie I said a prayer for you and sent you some energy! For what it's worth...being in a highly abusive marriage does to your body/mind what being in a prison camp does to a prisoner.

It hurts like hell...and the misery is what we are familiar with...but you will see with time and self work...many of your physical and psychological ailments will lessen, or maybe vanish.

It did for me. When you're in a hostile environment...you're constantly being bombarded with psychological/emotional attacks.

When it stops...you will heal and see parts of your old (better) self again. Just make sure, now that he is gone...you don't pick up where he left off and treat yourself the same way...we often do try to recreate what is familiar.

Look forward to better mental and emotional health! Sending you some healing light and love!
enfieldguy
enfieldguy
I understand
FaithHope
FaithHope
Sending positive energy and hugs your way.
I can relate to you,
on so many levels.
I would rather not make this about me.
I am glad you are able to look at the positive, as far as not having children with your Ex.
There is nothing wrong with crying,
Its better than keeping it in.
Try to keep busy with things that bring you Joy (music is Theraputic for me)
By Seeking support from DS, family and friends
You're going in the right direction.
Take care and God Bless
LindsayAlone
LindsayAlone
It is devastatingly hard to say goodbye. I asked myself the same thing after both long and short term relationships. After my latest break up, I wonder why it has to be this way. I have reasons for ending it, but also reasons why I miss it. I try not to think of it at all. None of it. I try to focus on myself. It’s hard, but doable. Hugs.
EllaEscribe
EllaEscribe
Aw... big, huge HUGS to you dear one. My heart is breaking for you! Saying goodbye is hard. And divorce is one of the hardest things you will go through. It is a loss and you will need to go through all the stages of grieving the loss of your spouse and your marriage.

Please be sure to talk to others about what you are going through. It is SO much and it is helpful to have someone to help you sort through it all.

You will get through this and come out of it stronger. And, you are not alone... there are so many of us here cheering for you, praying for you, and loving you!!!

More HUGS!!!!
faithfulmusiclover
faithfulmusiclover
Love and hugs to you Ollie, I know it may seem difficult now, but in the end, god will reveal the plan for your life and all of this will be understood. It never feels good ending a relationship no matter how horrible it was, but my friend keep taking solace in the fact that you are no longer being subjected to the bad and negative things and that you will rise above this in time! We are all here to support you!