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Feelings sill

Bell224
Bell224

I still have feelings for my ex wife when I moved out in August 2015 I told her that I still loved her she was rude but Is It normal to still have feelings please let me know

mirandac
mirandac
Bell, i would get into therapy to talk about it
And join a divorce group. They both really do
Help just to talk it out and get live support and
Feedback.

Come on here to vent and talk about your
Feelings and emotions. They can get bottled
up Especially during grieving they are coming
Out whether you want them or not.

When was your divorce finalized? i don't believe
Any real healing starts until the divorce and The
decree. Mine was finalized may 2015 and i Am
not all healed up yet. Time takes time, HUGS
WEATHEREDWATER
WEATHEREDWATER
Bell, confusion is a normal part of separation or divorce.
Getting into therapy and a divorce support group is very important if you seriously want to figure out what's going on with you. There is a lot of details and circumstances that need to be looked at face-to-face. Listening to others, in a therapy setting, will also let you see other's experiences and perspectives.
I have heard it said that you shouldn't date others for at least 2 years after divorce, and in that time it is most important to learn what part you played in the problems, and correct those personal characteristics, too.
Loyal_100
Loyal_100
Hi I was not legally married but I have been in a committed relationship for 14 years with a man who was my best friend first and I have known him for 15 years. I am now 33 in May and the mother of our 4 children and last year when I got sick and I couldn't walk and I still can't walk he up and left me alone with our kids... And sweetheart I still absolutely love him! So no there isn't anything wrong with you and it is absolutely normal to still be having feelings especially when the seperation and/or divorce wasn't something that you wanted... I still pray that he will come back home to his family and I pray for my well being and to be able to let go if that is what is meant to be... I am in therapy and I also come on here and it is good to rant and to get my feelings out! But one thing I say is that only you know how you truly feel and only you can change your heart if you want to let it all go... So just be honest with yourself and work on yourself and it will all be figured out no matter how much time it takes... Make sure its what you want and that you are ok... As long as you're not acting out on her or yourself in an unsafe way it is all a healing process... My prayers are with you! Hugs!
mirandac
mirandac
@ weather, i think you and i are on the same Page.

I still struggle and i am not dating Until I am healed
and also so is my heart. That might take me awhile
And yes we need to own our part and fix ourselves.

It takes 3 years after the divorce to normalize.

At year three You Have your own life and goals.
Could care less What the ex is doing or not doing
unless it impacts you or your children.

Many still struggle because the family is now a
fractured unit thats to be expected. The but is its
Not consuming you. Its part of your history and
Your Past its not about your future and you know
that, HUGS