Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I just went through a horrible break up. I had been dating the girl for a year and everything was going great. We clicked really well together and were very compatible. The difference in this relationship was i went in with the mindset that this might've been the one i spend the rest of my life with. Fast forward to our one year anniversary and it was all great. We had planned a big date on the weekend to celebrate as our anniversary was on a Tuesday and we both had work. Wednesday came by and as I was falling asleep next to her she tells me, "I have been hiding something from you". She ends up telling me that she cheated on me with a guy from her work. It was just a kiss so I was actually thinking about trying to fix things. I told her we can try again but she would have to quit her job and find a new one. She needed some time to make a decision and when I came home from work the next day, all her stuff was gone and so was she.
I called her and she didnt seem to want to talk about it. The cherry on top of all this is I found out she was over at the guys house that very same day. Our relationship wasn't even cold yet and she had already moved on. It was the final nail in the coffin of what we had built and she made it without a second thought...
This has been particularly hard on me, I have had relationships in the past that have lasted longer but it hasn't been this hard. I honestly do not know what to do. I keep wanting to message her or meet up with her one last time and it is so taxing. i cannot seem to get over these feelings of worthlessness. I mean how can she just throw me aside like im nothing? Did i ever mean anything to her? If i did then how can she pick some other guy so easily? Why was it so easy for her but so hard for me...I desperately want to see her one last time and it is taking all of my self control to not ask her...I do not know if i can last much longer...i feel so worthless and useless. What kind of man am I if i cant even hold on to my own girlfriend? What is wrong with me that I couldn't make her want no one else but me...
This is not the first time I had cougth him in a lie {same lie ,same woman} .I believed him when he first told me it was over but now I realize that it really was not.
like you i wish I could talk to him and again make me believe in him and continue our relationship but I have to accept that he doesnt feel the same for me and that he is not willing to be the man he told me he would be for me.
Happiness is a state of mind, so the real source of happiness must lie within the mind, not in external conditions (like relationships). If our mind is pure and peaceful we shall be happy, regardless of our external circumstances, but if it is impure and unpeaceful we can never be truly happy, no matter how hard we try to change our external conditions. We could change our home or our partner countless times, but until we change our restless, discontented mind we shall never find true happiness.
On a side note, and please don't be offended, but if I were in a similar situation and my guy told me I had to quit my job and find a new one, I would not take kindly to that.