I am sorry for what you are going through. I know it may sound trivial, but I really am. No one should have to feel like they are worthless. You are worth something and if he can't see that, than he does not deserve you.
If you ever need someone to talk to please feel free to message me.

I am sorry you are feeling the way you are. I know none of it makes sense to you and nothing about it seems fair at all. You will probably get tired of hearing it but it will take some time for you to start healing.
You are absolutely NOT worthless. I agree with Wish in that he doesn't deserve you. Now is the time to be extra nice to yourself. Don't beat yourself up for what he did because it does you no good and it will not help anything. Do something nice for yourself like get your hair and nails done. Buy a nice outfit or go somewhere you always wanted to go. Spend time with close family and friends, people you trust and love. Do what you can to not constantly think about it/him and in time, it will get easier. It's ok to get angry at him for what he did. Actually, it helps you reclaim your self worth and once you have built that back up, no one can ever take it away from you unless you let them. I am here for you as are everyone in this group. The people here really do care so take advantage of this great support system. Remember to take care of yourself...Hugs...

Lisa's right. It's not fair that the person who's left behind feels worthless. Are you talking to a therapist? I went through a period of feeling very low years ago (lower even than now) and I wish I'd gone through therapy then. It was hard to find reasons to get out of bed in the morning. It's not a good place to be, and the sooner you can realize how much you are worth, the easier it will be for you.

Thank you guys. It is just hard to admit that they no longer love you, How can it be so easy for them? I hope time heals these wounds. You have no idea, I feel such pain and emptiness in my heart.

Jgarc, I think it's safe to say that many of the fine folks here have felt exactly as you feel now. I feel that way too but it's getting better every day. I understand what it feels like to have someone you thought loved you just leaves you in the dust with your head spinning, thinking WTF just happened here? Worse yet when they refuse to accept responsibility for the destruction left in their wake. Don't knock yourself out trying to get answers because if he's anything like mine, you won't get them and it will drive you nuts. Having them ignore you and turn their back on you hurts like hell. I know. I've been there too. Wishing you peace of mind and heart.

Hi Jgarc: You say "you would of done anything for him because I love him and because he was worth it."

NO, NO, NO: From now on you set firm, safe and healthy boundaries for YOURSELF because you cannot change YOU to make other people happy or to make them stay. When you are not yourself, eventually it works on you and gets to you. They have to love you for who you really are and that's okay.

He is not worth "doing anything for him." He hasn't treated you with dignity and respect throughout this and he doesn't deserve you. He doesn't deserve your attention, your kindness, your compassion, your caring, your love--you save all that for someone who will deserve it and who will also return it all to you.

Astimegoesby: I def agree with what you are saying. It's just hard you know? That person leaves you feeling like you were not good enough.

NEVER EVER feel Worthless. He obviously was not the one. I am a firm believer that everyhing in life happens for a reason and a good one. You just don't see it right now. Because it's stormy now doesn't mean that you aren't headed for sunshine.

That's exactly it. Believe that what is meant to be will happen, and to just relax and let life happen without trying to control it too much. Easier said than done!

Yes. I do believe that God has a plan for of us. It just hurts. All I do is imagine him being happy, and that breaks my heart because here I am Suffering.

I am sorry, you are feeling so bad. I used to be in the same boat as you.
Finally I have learned, at least for me. I let NO one make me feel worthless. I have finally learned that the only one who I REALLY want to please is myself. You are young and have a really good chance of finding someone who will really care for you, without trying to make you feel worthless. The guy that left you didn't care for you and I sure wouldn't waste my time thinking about him. Please take some time to pamper yourself and let yourself have some special treats. You will start to feel better, but it does take time.

These are 2 of my favorite quotes

"You're not free in life until you are free of wanting others approval."

"People are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be" - Abraham Lincoln

I wish you all the luck in the world, in hoping you will just put your mind somewhere else. He isn't worth even 1 of your thoughts

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gem111 - Thank you for your words. It is just sad you know...one has so many dreams and hopes for the future and just because of one person...it can all crush down. Its just crazy. It also scares to read how often this happens...ive also read that once you are divorced, your next marriage has a higher chance of failing as well...like what hope do we have?

I know it is so damn hard that he managed to do this to you. It will get better. Just try not to let him control your feelings any more and try and forget him. It almost sounds like he did everything on purpose.
Consider this relationship a learning experience and hopefully you learned some red flags to watch for. Some little things he could have done that gave you an uncomfortable feeling in your gut. Always listen to your gut.
You are so lucky that you are still young. I bet all your dreams will come true, but they wouldn't have had a chance with this last guy.

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Gem111- Yes i really need to take control of my life. So far he has controlled how this break up has been. I just replay all the great things and it just hurts...I'm sorry i am whining so much! its just too much to deal with.

Everybody whines at one time or another---You deserve to whine. I am glad you realize what he has done. I think that will help you when you start to feel better and it will make it easier to get on with your life.
You will find someone that will treat you so much better than that snake.

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