My marriage of 20+ years was not good for along time. I could do nothing right in my husband's eye. When last kid left for college last fall I got the courage to tell him he didnt have to stay if he didnt want to. He moved out the beginning of December and for the most part I have been taking it day by day and feeling fine. During this time a former co worker who now lives about 500 miles away and I developed this connection - we have had contact for years it just grew into "lust". Last weekend he came to visit. Before the visit I told him I couldnt handle any more than "friends with benefits". We spent an amazing 26 hours together and I felt a connection more than just sex. All last week I kind of danced around my feelings, trying to see what he felt, tried to make plans to see eacfh other again, etc. and didnt get anywhere. Friday I finally told him I felt more than just sex, I acknowledged I changed the rules I had set going into it and I asked him what he thought. He said it was nice to be liked but he didnt really know what to say or think. I have not heard anything more from him. I know hes been out of town visiting family this weekend - but nothing. I am feeling stupid and rejected.