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So I finally went on a little vacation away from home and got to see some amazing friends and I also got to see the ex. Some of you asked me to let you guys know how it goes and I would like to think that it went really well. We are not back together but I feel like it helped a lot. It was very emotional and awkward and weird but really good. He picked me up, hugged for like 5 minutes, had lunch, and went to the beach where we finally started talking about us and the situation we are currently in. He admitted to his mistakes and his fears of the relationship failing again if we tried. I spoke of the issues I had with him. This whole time he had his arms on my waste and mine around his neck. It was very emotional. I saw tears in his eyes and I started to cry. We didn't talk about any solutions but basically vented and released a lot of negativity and emotions. We ended up having sex after. I had missed him. I may have seduced him but he held back the whole time. He gave in before taking me home when I sat on his lap and laid my head on his shoulder. He came in for a kiss and we started making out and one thing led to another.
He eventually took me home where I cried my eyes out because I felt like it was goodbye and there wasn't more to say. He told me "i don't know why you love me so much." He kissed me on the cheek a few timesand left. I texted him "drive safe" where he replied by asking if he can come visit me in 2 weeks, we live 2 hours away. I said we could talk about it closer to when he wanted to visit to see if its a good idea. We have been texting a bit. We face timed and he told me that he wants to better our relationship and he doesn't want to lie to me anymore and he's realizing that he has been lying a lot because he is not ready to talk or because he is afraid of saying the truth but he feels like shit and he doesn't want to do that anymore. He doesn't want anything sexual because he thinks it will complicate things. He just wants us to get along. I confessed to him that I was just as afraid of whats to come as he is and not really sure on whether its best we try again or not. I am not sure if we can ever be friends and we may one day stop talking or decide to try again..That is the puzzle right now.
We both really care about each other and there are still feelings but I don't know if its enough. I don't know if we are strong enough to make this relationship work again. I do know I wish him the best and he wants me to succeed and be amazing. I feel much better than I did a week or two ago. He has been much nicer and better with me and I am with him. We don't fight or make each other mad like we used to. We also don't talk 24/7. I am content at this moment.
He eventually took me home where I cried my eyes out because I felt like it was goodbye and there wasn't more to say. He told me "i don't know why you love me so much." He kissed me on the cheek a few timesand left. I texted him "drive safe" where he replied by asking if he can come visit me in 2 weeks, we live 2 hours away. I said we could talk about it closer to when he wanted to visit to see if its a good idea. We have been texting a bit. We face timed and he told me that he wants to better our relationship and he doesn't want to lie to me anymore and he's realizing that he has been lying a lot because he is not ready to talk or because he is afraid of saying the truth but he feels like shit and he doesn't want to do that anymore. He doesn't want anything sexual because he thinks it will complicate things. He just wants us to get along. I confessed to him that I was just as afraid of whats to come as he is and not really sure on whether its best we try again or not. I am not sure if we can ever be friends and we may one day stop talking or decide to try again..That is the puzzle right now.
We both really care about each other and there are still feelings but I don't know if its enough. I don't know if we are strong enough to make this relationship work again. I do know I wish him the best and he wants me to succeed and be amazing. I feel much better than I did a week or two ago. He has been much nicer and better with me and I am with him. We don't fight or make each other mad like we used to. We also don't talk 24/7. I am content at this moment.
I ended feeling better, but don't think he was. There are no thoughts of reconciliation. He was sure there were already too many hurts to even think about fixing last year. We need to get along for our kids, hear students talking and just wish their parents could do things together... had said he wants to be friends, but since I don't trust him to come do work, wanting to know when he comes to get things. still too much unfinished business. I feel he did pack what was important to him prior to leaving. He packed up while I was teaching a night class. But I don't want to have to go through these feelings or this process again along with not putting our kids through it as well.
Hope you get what you want.