Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm feeling really raw again so I'm need to write a sad post. Its been almost 2 months since the breakup and I don't seem to be doing as good as I should at this point. I had severe depression since the breakup but the antidepressants seem to be lifting that. Now I'm feeling the real, raw sadness. It's like I'm just now starting the real mourning process.
I'm so alone. I cannot emphasize how lonely I am. Turns out none of my "friends" are real friends, can't count on my family, and I can't find a job. I'm called "crazy" by those close to me because I've been an emotional wreck at times. I just don't have the coping skills to deal with all of my losses at once.
I'm still mourning the loss of my job and apartment as well. I no longer have my coworkers to joke around with on a daily basis. I joined meetup.com but I can't bring myself to go to any of the events because I'm really nervous in social situations, especially when I go alone.
This breakup really destroyed my life. I don't know how I'll ever manage to be happy again.
I'm so alone. I cannot emphasize how lonely I am. Turns out none of my "friends" are real friends, can't count on my family, and I can't find a job. I'm called "crazy" by those close to me because I've been an emotional wreck at times. I just don't have the coping skills to deal with all of my losses at once.
I'm still mourning the loss of my job and apartment as well. I no longer have my coworkers to joke around with on a daily basis. I joined meetup.com but I can't bring myself to go to any of the events because I'm really nervous in social situations, especially when I go alone.
This breakup really destroyed my life. I don't know how I'll ever manage to be happy again.
One thing I will say is that there is no correct timeline for this. Don't worry too much about where you "should be" by now. One statement I've read in a few places says something like "Some say the time it takes to get over a breakup is half the time of the relationship. That's not true. It takes however long it takes." It sucks to not be able to rush this, but know that where we are at this point is still considered to be very normal.
I'm glad to hear that the antidepressants are starting to kick in. I don't know how I'd have functioned at all without mine. And I get what you mean about how it just leaves the raw emotions behind... it's really tough.
I don't know what kind of work you were in, but have you considered reaching out to temp agencies? I actually ended up with the job I've had for years by being placed as a temp. Often not the most enjoyable jobs, but it could be something and would fill up some time. In the meantime, maybe spend some time in coffee shops or other places where you can sit for a while surrounded by people but don't have to interact?
Sending gentle hugs your way.
I joined meetup after my last breakup and it took a few tries to find groups that I clicked with but I eventually did and it was honestly one of the best things I did for myself to help mend my world. I just signed up for a bunch of groups in my new city. The next step will be to push myself to start going out. It's not easy when blue.
Fruitpi: Thanks. I found one meetup group that doesn't seem intimidating. They go on 1 hour hikes once a week and that would be a good starting point for me.
Thank you both for your support :)
allow yourself lots of time.....it shows great strength and hope that you are even taking antidepressants and trying to join meetup groups
I am sorry you are hurting so much......I know your pain