Hello everyone. This is my first time posting on a forum like this, but I feel like I have no where else to turn. I feel like I can't even voice how I feel to my own friends or family because I feel like (1) I am a burden, (2) they don't care, (3) I know what I need to do and their advice is based on what I need or should do versus listening to me when that's really all I want/need. This past year has been a lot of going back and forth with my ex. I met him after a month of moving to a new city and he was really my first friend. Things between us escalated quickly and we moved in together after only 3 months of dating when my living situation turned sour with past roommates. We were together for 3 years before I finally broke things off and moved out for good. My main issue with him was that I did not feel appreciated, nor that he wanted to work toward a future and would rather sit around playing video games, smoking weed, and working a minimum wage job the rest of his life. I tried my best to help him and basically handed him things on a silver platter. It got to the point I felt extremely worn out. I was working 40+ hours a week while still going to school full time. I became burned out and my grades started slipping and my work performance started getting bad too. I feel like I pity him which is why it has been so hard to completely stop communicating with him. He doesn't come from the best background (family has a lot of drug and alcohol issues, but he was the exception and didn't do any of these things). I am a naturally helpful person and just wanted the best for him. Anyways, I moved out July 23 of this year. We have still remained in contact and do not talk as often as we use to. We talk daily, but I usually will not respond after a few text messages. He also has still came over to my apartment to spend the night. I really would like to remove him out of my life, but there's this part of me that feels like because I cannot turn to anyone else when I am feeling alone or just upset, I turn to him for comfort. It's been a heart breaking cycle and I just want to get better and move on with my life. Once again, I know what I need to do. I know I need to stop communicating with him and stop having him come over. That is not the purpose of reaching out for help. I would essentially like help to find ways to stop feeling like I have no one to turn to. I feel like a lot of my relationships I have with friends and family have dwindled down to nothing since dating him and I just feel extremely lost in my own life.