Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
After 19 years, and lots of drama, I have filed for divorce. My soon-to-be-ex has put me in crazy situations, starting with his drug abuse, his drug dealing, losing 2 houses, bankruptcy, and finally, an affair with a crazy, con artist. This person has harassed me, stalked me, stolen online pictures and posted nasty things about me. I tried to get a restraining order, but since she is homeless, they can't serve her; so she gets away with anything. I have gotten over much of what he has done in the past, I even don't care about the affair. The problem I am having is how easy it is for him to be dating and I am stuck at home. He always kept me sheltered and would drive away any friends I had. So I am stuck without at home with the kids and all the friends are his friends. He signed up for the same online dating site as I did and he has some many women who he is dating and I only attract those who want one thing. So, I am purposefully not trying to meet someone, it just feels wrong that he had an affair and I feel like I am the one being punished because he has so many dates. I know I sound petty, but that is how I feel. I can only imagine the girls he is dating think what a catch he is and how I must be a horrible person to leave him. It sucks....which is why I am feeling lonely.
What type of individuals could possibly be dating him?
A bunch of equally compromised, desperate, lonely women?
Some decent women that hes lying to, conning and will unfortunately find out who he is hopefully sooner rather than later?
I don't think it's quantity. Anyone can sucker someone into a date or two. Anything of value materializing there?
I practice when I get lonely. I practice filling up my own time with making myself happy so I never have to NEED someone else in my life again.
getting healthier and better. I liked therapy and alanon
to help build Myself back up. Divorce Care is also a
great program, it helps with the Grieving and divorce
process.
I hope you have a good lawyer too, dating at this time
Or even thinking about dating is not a very good idea.
Focus on the here and now and what needs to be done
To get a divorce and then work on healing yourself and
Taking care of your childrens needs. HUGS
It's probably going to suck for a while, but life will definitely get better. Even though my ex immediately went and married a bankrupt loser with months of our divorce being final, I barely even think of him or what they're doing anymore. I have made lots of new friends and now I get to do things that make me happy, without him getting jealous trying to stop me from ever leaving the house. I hope you find happiness as well. Hugs!