Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi all -
I just got my divorce nisi in the mail on Friday so I'm thinking that has a lot to do with the way I've felt over this weekend... hoping to get some perspective....
I left my husband. We weren't married very long but he seemed to have a difficult time with "leaving and cleaving." He was very enmeshed with his mom and I couldn't take it as she started acting even more strangely towards me once I was about to marry her son and shortly after. My husband was against me setting boundaries for myself. He said we should have boundaries together because we were married, but I wasn't comfortable with his idea of "boundaries."
Anyway...the enmeshment was our only issue in our marriage. We did try counseling and at times he seemed to "get it" but then he'd also seem to backtrack. Meanwhile, I knew I could've communicated with him better. Our counselor told him he had to put me first and stop always defending his mom. I think he got this but just didn't know how to do it.
I am feeling lonely and like I will never find anyone again. We had some really amazing times together... I am afraid I won't be able to find that again.
I just got my divorce nisi in the mail on Friday so I'm thinking that has a lot to do with the way I've felt over this weekend... hoping to get some perspective....
I left my husband. We weren't married very long but he seemed to have a difficult time with "leaving and cleaving." He was very enmeshed with his mom and I couldn't take it as she started acting even more strangely towards me once I was about to marry her son and shortly after. My husband was against me setting boundaries for myself. He said we should have boundaries together because we were married, but I wasn't comfortable with his idea of "boundaries."
Anyway...the enmeshment was our only issue in our marriage. We did try counseling and at times he seemed to "get it" but then he'd also seem to backtrack. Meanwhile, I knew I could've communicated with him better. Our counselor told him he had to put me first and stop always defending his mom. I think he got this but just didn't know how to do it.
I am feeling lonely and like I will never find anyone again. We had some really amazing times together... I am afraid I won't be able to find that again.
All I can say is take time to get over this and resolve your issues with your marriage within yourself. When you're ok being alone, put yourself out there and remember that each person is unique and will have their own strengths.
Good luck!