Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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DAISYDAISY20162 09/12/2016

hi,

i broke up with my well now ex bf of 2.5 years a week ago. Had a mistake of talking to him and now discovered that he is already dating someone else. Really?

I am of course an emotinal mess and all of a sudden so sad.

I dumped him many times before but got him back easy, this time though I feel like I have to stick to the break up and need to move on, as neither of us was happy in the relationship.

Can any one help me understand how long this misarable feeling will last? What to do to feel better? What mistakes not to make. I pretty much have been crying since I got home today from work.

MinFlorida 09/12/2016

I know how you are feeling. I pretty much "broke up" with my stbx husband of 23 1/2 years just last month. My son found the last straw today (black lace thongs) in ex's old car. Felt like a knife in the chest & I cried all day long, too!

You need to give yourself some TLC! Go for a spa day or just a mani-pedi. Do *something* to treat yourself special. You ARE special. {{{Hugs}}}

DAISYDAISY20162 09/12/2016

I just can't grasp to get my sht together...
It's all of a sudden so real and so incredibly sad.
2.5 years and it's all gone and I'm alone... Again!

mirandac 09/12/2016

Let yourself grieve your losses, seek therapy
If you feel it will help. They ofen can guide and
Help you. I would try to heal yourself before
Getting into a new relationship. There might
Also Be a breakup group in your area.

Sorry for all Your pain and hurt. I cried for 4
months after My ex left, time takes time to
heal. Be gentle and kind to yourself. HUGS

DAISYDAISY20162 09/12/2016

Thank you! It helps to know I'm not alone.
I just want to stop crying so bad.

samantha717 09/12/2016

I am so sorry this happened to you. There is no easy fix unfortunately. What I found worked best for me was letting it out. It's like a cold or a flu .... you have to let it run its course. Cry until you can't cry anymore and talk about it to anyone who will listen. There is healing in those tears. Another thing that really helped me a lot was to watch movies and TV shows with strong women in them.

MinFlorida 09/13/2016

I have been rewatching West Wing. It's got my kind of humor, lots of drama and not any romance in it. I think another good genre would be sci-fi or fantasy (Star Trek, Lord of the Rings) just something to put your mind in neutral for a little while. (((Hugs)))

dsb188 09/14/2016

I would definitely stick to your word this time. When you take someone back that continually treats you bad it tells them that we are disposal and we all know that isn't the truth. If he was so quick to replace you than I would cut off all communication with him and try to move on by any means necessary. You deserve better than that. Talking to ex's are like to go through the birthing process, Once you go through it you can't go back.

tynee5511 09/15/2016

I went through that same situation I took him back within 2 weeks and he had already slept with someone else and now after 9 months things are absolutely still the same and we just separated and already he's not answering his phone because he's talking to someone else it's not worth the second go-around when someone moves on so fast it speaks to their character

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