Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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ALD13072 12/13/2013

For those that have been divorced for a while, did you ever feel guilty about healing and being happy again. Even though my ex was the one that left me for another woman I can't help but feel guilty about being happy. I feel like I am dishonoring my marriage...yes I know that sounds crazy but I still can't help but feel guilty.

murphytoronto 12/13/2013

It doesn't sound crazy
I get it
but it is the best revenge...lol...so I hear

deleted_user 12/13/2013

If you are the person who was left by the partner...and you're feeling happy again, you should feel amazing

deleted_user 12/13/2013

It never crossed my mind to feel guilty about being happy since my divorce...not once.

I quite enjoy me and not having to deal with compromising, and explaining, and all the messy parts of relationships. Getting divorced helped me to just BREATHE.

deleted_user 12/13/2013

Hi ALD: Your husband didn't just leave you for another woman, he announced he was/is a sex addict (apparently untreated) and it sort of left ME with my jaw on the floor when he broke that news to you.

He pulled all this on you, and now you feel guilty? Nah--you want to look in the mirror and tell yourself repeatedly that you're a good person and you are worthy of better than your husband in your life. You DESERVE to heal and be happy. In fact, you deserve to eventually find a great man.

Healing and feeling happy ARE POSITIVE AND GOOD EMOTIONS to have. You are not the one who dishonored your marriage so don't take on your husband's guilt, instead let him take ALL OF THAT. I'm happy that you are pulling out of this.

And when I am out in my electric scooter in stores, I find good men all the time that hold doors, that ask if they can help, if they can get something for me off the top shelves. Plus I come here and there are good men right here on this board and they remind me that there are good men out there. Don't forget that.

nancyneds2 12/13/2013

Dont feel guilt at all. The past marriage brought you to where you are. Embrace that part of your life as well as your current life! No guilt aloud! lol

Although I cant say I am happy, I am certainly over the marriage. Maybe not so much of the trauma it caused me... Ex got remarried. I am no upset or jealous that he did that, but I am angry how he has treated our son since he married. I hate dealing with him period.

I know one day I will be in a good place and can say that I too am happy.

ChiTownBear 12/14/2013

I think during the beginning part of a split, whether you were divorced or in a committed relationship, one can feel like that because they were with that person and there is some sense they are still connected or tied to that person. But as time goes by and the longer it gets, you get used to the idea you are no longer in the relationship and the guilt or whatever it is you feel about dating another person will lessen. It just takes time, however long it is for you, to disconnect from that person you were with. Some people it can take months or even years, others, they can do it in a weeks notice. It just depends on how connected / invested to that other person you were.

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