My best suggestion is see a therapist and talk
It out so you get some clarity. Its Very hard to
look At your own marriage without lots of emotions
And feelings and often times resentments.

i wish i did a lot of things different too, Don't let
your life just be about him, find ways to Be you
and set your goals. You matter, you are enough.

Its hard though to become someone different
Than you have been Without help, join support
groups, churches,Arts and crafts groups. HUGS

I think your situation is comparable to what mine mas. I worked very hard as well, we do not have kids, but did everything to support him. He was not successful when we met, but I stood by him no matter what. In the last 5 years he grew very successful. Would ask questions about money, telling me what I could do better to keep up the house, etc etc. I never questioned what he spent or what he did. It was almost an in control thing, I sometimes felt like I was answering to my parent when I was a kid. Nothing I did was good enough, swore he would never leave me but he did. I will never understand how someone can change like that, but it happens. Look out for yourself, talk to him about how you feel. He will either take into consideration and work towards fixing it, or will continue in his ways. I know exactly how you are feeling. XOXO

Wow, this sounds a bit like me 20 years ago. I came to realize that this is how he was even before we married, that I just didn't see it before. Could this be the same with you - he's always been this way? I worked part time since my second son was 2 years old, and I never made enough money to suit him. He would say stuff like I only make 10% of what he makes - which is totally untrue, I was making about 25% of what he was, but I was also taking care of every single detail of our family's life, including all the guy stuff of fixing and mowing and house repair. And if I bought two new things for myself a year, what a treat! Meanwhile, he bought golf stuff, golf trips, golf most weekends, lunches out every day, whatever stupid thing he wanted. When I did pick up more hours, he still didn't life a finger to help pick up the slack around the house. I decided I could kill myself, work 60 hours a week at 3 jobs, support the home, raise the kids, and I still wasn't appreciated. So I cut back down to a managable workload. He was still not satisfied, but I was a little less crazed. Now I'm full time and I've dropped supporting his physical and emotional needs off of my "To Do" list, and I'm much happier for it. Waiting for the day he is finally EX versus STBX.

I'm sorry for your situation. You should not be criticized for buying new jeans, especially while pregnant, with your body changing all the time in ways you cannot control. Why do you suspect he's seeing someone else? Is it just the criticism, or are there other reasons?

You know the problem is from our end. When you say you have done everything for him, you have set a wrong expectation right in the beginning. I was at fault too when out of blind love, I did all the household work, worked and also supported the home financially thinking that it will make my ex happy. You know what happens that. He takes you for granted. Let me tell you a guy's perspective. Recently I coached a guy who is an operations manager in a multinational company. He was quite happy with his job but he was not too happy with his personal life. He felt he didn't spend enough time with his kids. After some probing, I came to know that he was not too happy that his wife took all the responsibility and didnt ask him to do anything. After being coached, he decided to get into a conversation with his wife and slowly started taking up work like helping the children with homework, playing football with them. After two weeks, he found so happy and fulfilling. So sometimes we should just talk it out with the spouse and see if tasks can be divided. You never know life is full of surprises!

All of you are wonderful. I don't feel alone in my situation. 11 Christmases, I only suspect him of seeing another is because he is so criticizing of me. I feel like maybe he is trying to compare me to someone specific. He's constantly telling me to change my looks. But the second I try, I'm then told I'm too expensive. I buy my jeans at cheap department stores or yard sales. I can't tell if he even wants me to change or not. Or if it's the pregnancy. Maybe it's just my body not being "normal". I'm unsure. Shai21 I'm definitely talking to him about it or doing counseling. He does seem happy with his job but not too happy at home. So it's a big possibility he might just be overworked. He doesn't really get to see the kids too often. So maybe he's just lashing at me because he's upset he doesn't get to spend time with the kids? Thank you for all the help guys! I appreciate people talking to me about this.

If there are red flags pay attention to them
And i do hope you get into therapy to talk
About you thoughts, feelings and emotions.

Don't minimize yourself sometimes your gut
is telling Us things we do not want to hear.
Your gut is not your head or your heart and
Its hard to fool. HUGS