I've found that the best way to move on is to find a new hobby and keep yourself busy doing anything productive that distracts you from the pain. This might mean volunteering, taking a class, learning something new, exercising with a friend, etc. Healing takes time and right now you're going through the grieving process, which is completely normal. Accept that things didn't work out, and that you've taken mental notes of what you'll do differently in future relationships, because after all, every relationship is a lesson that can be learned from. As you shift your mind to doing something to keep yourself busy, you'll gradually start thinking of him less and less, and before you know it, you will have moved on.

I feel like you do. It is difficult to get moving and find a new hobby especially since I work, have full time school, and other commitment. I have found that audible books have kept me company and help me reflect. I am learning how to sit in uncertainty in a situation that I did not create. It is hard to not think about missing him. But, choosing self is what I keep hearing...I still dont know what that means....most important though is to forgive yourself of all the things you wish you could go back and do all over again...

Choosing self ideas

Put yourself first instead of others, respect yourself
Enough to say see ya later if they are disrespecting
And/or mistreating you. You and your life is what is
Important not living for someone elses needs, wants
desires. You matter to yourself first and Foremost. The
past Is gone and you can only do better today and in
the future. Do not beat yourself up, forgive yourself and
Be kind and gentle to yourself especially as you grieve
Your losses.

Go see a therapist to help guide you, during these
Stressful times, join a breakup support group if there
Is one. Reach out to loving caring people for support.
Stay away from negative or bad people they only bring
You down even further. HUGS

I understand where you're coming from. You deserve to be loved by someone who won't ever let you go. You deserve more than this guy, who left you feeling shattered.

I'm in the same boat. Since he left me almost a month ago, I have had some of the worst panic attacks of my life, and my pre-existing depression has worsened. I have severe mood swings--one minute I'm sad, the next minute I'm consumed by anger, and sometimes, I can be just fine.

My sister is a social worker, and she gave me a real tough awakening yesterday. She told me she was angry, really angry about how badly he treated me, and that she hated him for what he's done to me. Her advice was to sit and think about all of the bad things he did. Online cheating/sexting. Explosive anger, demeaning comments, name-calling. Don't think of the few moments when things were fine, because he left you broken-hearted. You deserve someone who truly loves you and wants to give you the world. Someone who will not leave you in your darkest moments, but rather, stand behind you and lift you up.

Don't look back on the relationship with "rose-tinted" glasses. Look back and reflect on the reasons it didn't work. Go no contact if you haven't already, block all social media, block his phone number, and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, and you deserve better.

Reach out to family and friends for support. I've been going to my therapist more often, which at times can be emotionally draining, and feel like pouring salt in an open wound, but it truly helps in the end.

Stay strong. Keep your head up. You will make it through to the other side. You're worth it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other even when it seems impossibly hard. I believe in you!

i completely understand where you are coming from. It's been 2 months since my bf broke up with me..and is still hurts, specially since he's moved on ... But I feel like there are things that can help. I Been reading a lot of articles on how to get over a break up and they really really help !!!tell your self that is over and tell yourself you have to move on.. Focus on yourself. ... Tell yourself you deserve better ! Because we do !!!!

You have to accept that it's over before you're able to move on. Once you've done that invest in yourself. Find things that make you happy & do them. Keep busy, the more you're doing for yourself the less time you have to spend thinking about him or missing him. Huggs

I'm having trouble moving on also. It's been one of the hardest things. My problem is finding things to distract myself while nourishing all my insecurites in my brain.

I'm in the same boat at the moment. It hurts like hell. I wish I could beg him back and all. I wish I could be there for you *hugs*

I admire your strength to reach out for advice. I’m sorry to hear about your breakup with your boyfriend. It is tough experiencing a breakup. I see that you really cared about him and that you are a wonderful person. Breakups can take some time to heal. Although, you’re in pain right now it’s good that you want relief from your feelings. Therefore, to live a healthy life you see that your thoughts can’t be on him constantly to move on. Therefore, if you have to cry when you think about him it’s okay because crying is healthy. Have you thought about activities for healing consider what you like to do that’s healthy? Therefore, when you are actually doing what you love to do your mind is occupied.
Stay encouraged!

Sorry to hear. I've been in your shoes.
1. Let your self to grief.. you can not control your emotions. No one can. The more efforts will you make trying to stop fantasizing and dreaming about your ex, the longer will it take to recover. Let it be your current emotional state. It does not matter what you did and how you acted in the past. It is over! You can not go back and fix it. We all make mistakes...eah..I made a lot, and I consider myself smart and wise.
2. Anyone who ever went through break ups ...RECOVERED!You will too!It is not going to be tomorrow or next week, it might take even months. But you will get better if you develop some recovery plan. Do not push yourself...take one step at a time.
3. Read!Read!Read! There are hundreds of articles on the topic. Most of it won't apply to you specifically. Some will. You will see how many people go through the same situations.
4. Life is empty and boring without love and romance!However, romantic relationships always have risk to end one day...leaving one with a broken heart. Nothing lasts forever. You loved, you've been happy...your life was fulfilled and meaningful. Isn't that amazing?
5. Try to keep moving even when you think you can not!One thing at a time..today read, tomorrow meet with friend, next week join a gym..Physical activity is a mast. And, I know how irritating is that to make yourself on a triad mill and observe happy faces when you are about to burst in tears. I've been there..but at the end, you will feel better.
6. Start noticing small things around you that gives you little pleasure.
7. Can you cry for several days in a row?..this is my best friend recipe. When she broke up, she would cry and cry..and recover vary fast.
8. Envision your life like you will never be in love again. What would you do? Will you try to enhance your carrier? Or may be you'd like helping people? Or, may be improving your look and health will become your mission? Do you want to make more money? Do you want to travel?
9. Love your family and friends! Yes, I know it is different. But, at the end..it is more important and valuable than a love of the man that left you. I am sure it does not feel like that at the moment.
I wish you to get better!

I agree with this saying :"But, choosing self is what I keep hearing...I still dont know what that means....most important though is to forgive yourself of all the things you wish you could go back and do all over again..."
Forgive yourself! We all are humans, we make mistakes, we are not born wise and perfect.
Then, forgive him!He left you because he does not feel love and attachment anymore...no matter why and because of what. Man not always intentionally hurt you. On the opposite, many men wish the women they left to recover fast and to not to suffer. However, just because your heart is broken does not mean he has to stay, it does not mean he is a bad person. Realizing that in the situation of break ups there is no guilty party is essential.
Then..common, girls! There are a lot of good and beautiful women around..men are always in a better position when it gets to finding a mate. Yes, there is always somebody that prettier, smarter, wealthier, younger and ect.. And, if he chose another women..he was just not your man, not your perfect match.

I hear your pain and I am there too. This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to go through. All I can do is to continue to give it to God. My days are spent on robot mode, trying to get through them as quickly as possible so I can go home and cry. It's insane. It becomes exhausting holding up the facade in public. But again, I keep giving it to God. He's the only one that can fix this for me. And I have to find peace in him and, as hard as it may be, I have to trust that this will get better. I wish I could give you a big hug because sometimes that helps. But know that you are not alone. *Hugs*