Maybe it is?! I was feeling super uber bored this week with my life too! And I'm moving so I should have been packing furiously but I just had no enthusiasm. I sat around thinking "Really? This is my life now? BORING!" I think getting stuck in a rut is probably typical. I wouldn't have considered my life exciting by any means before but suddenly now I can't stand the lack of any thrill. And I actually go out and do stuff every once in a while so I have no idea where this is coming from! If you figure it out, let me know. :)

I feel that way, too, so maybe it is a phase? My life is also work- walk the dog- sleep, so that's probably a big reason. The only thing that breaks up the monotony is when I have a doctor's appt (and yes, I get excited). I think I just have this overwhelming feeling of dissatisfaction, yet I am ok enough with my life to not really do much about it besides dwell on it. I can't really put it into words.... but it's nice to know that I'm not alone in that feeling. I know I want to be happy, but I can't quite figure out how to feel that way.

Y'all need to get out and do things! Since my ex left, I have been so busy doing fun things, I'm exhausted from it. I started going to the gym 3-4 nights a week, I took up horseback riding, I go shopping and different activities with my daughter. You have to do things you have never done before. I'm happier now than than when I was with the ex.

horseback riding is next on my list :)

I was worried I've put up a stupid, trivial post -it still seems so, but am alone in this makes me feel sort of ok. Yes, its the 'boredom' which savorthemoments described better than me--'a feeling of is this how life is going to be from now on?' : just some sort of 'survival'. Agree with berriegood too, that I really ought to go out and do something ! I hate the phrase 'get a life', : mainly cos I got this phrase thrown at me by my stbx's new love when I was squabbling with her via text mssges (no clue how and why I did that!!), but I think I do need to do that: 'get myself a life'(still hate the phrase). My boredom , however gave way to anxiety again when I visited the school my stbx is enrolling my daughter into [when she comes to me soon] & found it not ok by me..which means i need to find her another school and just that little thing got me so worried (finding a new school which will accept her mid-seesion) that I was crying : oh my God, what kind of a single mother will I make??-crying when faced with a school issue !! Now am not feeling so bored, but anxious--how nice!

..that should have been .. "but I am NOT alone in this makes me feel sort of ok.."

it's the fertile void, can't go forward just yet, and cant go back...its just stuck and empty

it's like suspended animation during winter,

don't worry

the spring rains come again

you wont always feel this way
but enjoy it while it lasts
its an important part of everything

"It seems to be now just an uphill thing with me working and making sure I can give the best to my daughter."

i think that is the key statement in your post.

both of those things are about giving to others and how hard it has become.

but, wise people don't do that. wise people only give from an excess amount of energy after taking good care of themselves first.

i think that this is a phase that we all go through after divorce. how to put a good balance and rhythm into our lives that works for us. we have to stand back and look at our personal needs and satisfy them first. to make them our top priorities. then, we pivot from there as we give to others via our various roles.

thanks for this post. i need to look at these things in my own life.