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Feeling alone and depressed

sylarn
sylarn

my no ex girlfriend and I have broken up about 4 days ago and I'm so torn up about it. She just up and left me after saying we fight so much because she doesn't put in anything to relationship and I give it my all where she doesn't give anything. I can't talk to her because I said I never want to see or talk to her again and I can't go hangout with friends because they all left for college and I'm still home I have no way of dealing with this feeling of being unloved and unwanted 

asmiths
asmiths
You are loved and wanted. Cutting contact for now is the best way to heal even though it seems like the hardest or the worst. Honestly, when I went through some shit, I would literally just lay in bed with my dog and eat pb&j sandwiches and i still cried a lot and freaked out, but having her next to me helped me feel calm as silly as that sounds. If I was too upset to focus on a tv show, I would go outside and just breath in the fresh air. Sometimes I didn't even feel okay enough to walk, so I would just sit on the front step of my house and breath and listen to the sounds of traffic. I don't have a great relationship with my mom, but I would just go over there and ask if she'd have a glass of wine and watch a movie with me and it helped me not to feel so alone and reminded me that even if I couldn't talk to her about it, I still had someone that loved me.
hygeia4life
hygeia4life
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=G5_sbzSXs0E

Might be helpful. Sometimes it's about reframing our seeing
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
it is probably for the best that she broke up with you. A one-side relationship (i.e. one person puts everything into it, the other person does put anything into it) is unhealthy at best and dangerous. Look into yourself to determine why you accepted a relationship with someone why was all taking and no giving and learn from that.

Take that knowledge forward into your future relationships so you are able to maintain a healthy relationship.
Gutted
Gutted
This is a prime example of why we should not burn our bridges behind us. Sorry, you are going though this. Maybe it's time to work on doing things that make you happy as w human being. Give her a chance to miss you.