Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Its been over two weeks now since my wife left. She already filed and I picked up the papers yesterday, on the way to a free lawyer consult. The guy seems good and I asked to hire him.
All-in-all I am starting to come out of the gloom. The first week was absolutely miserable and I barely remember it even. Thanks to friends and family for support, and online forums to vent. And to God for watching out for me.
I still have moments every day, but the panic attacks seem to be gone. My stomach still hurts when I get up, and I dry heave still.
But I am realizing that, though I am hardly perfect, I tried to spoil my wife and it wasn't enough to make her love me. She probably faked the whole 6 year marriage and the year or so before that. Yeah, I improved her life, since she couldn't support herself and son before me without her parents aid. But she had a checkered, alcohol and drug filled past that she misses.
She thought being my husband would be more fun. Well, most days its just about getting the work done and the kids fed and clothed. We can't drink every day. She was shocked when she asked about doing drugs and I got angry. Guess she thought I was someone else.
But I have a good lawyer, who I am very confident in. I have a councelor keeping me on the right track. I think this is going to be okay. I am optimistic it will someday be great.
All-in-all I am starting to come out of the gloom. The first week was absolutely miserable and I barely remember it even. Thanks to friends and family for support, and online forums to vent. And to God for watching out for me.
I still have moments every day, but the panic attacks seem to be gone. My stomach still hurts when I get up, and I dry heave still.
But I am realizing that, though I am hardly perfect, I tried to spoil my wife and it wasn't enough to make her love me. She probably faked the whole 6 year marriage and the year or so before that. Yeah, I improved her life, since she couldn't support herself and son before me without her parents aid. But she had a checkered, alcohol and drug filled past that she misses.
She thought being my husband would be more fun. Well, most days its just about getting the work done and the kids fed and clothed. We can't drink every day. She was shocked when she asked about doing drugs and I got angry. Guess she thought I was someone else.
But I have a good lawyer, who I am very confident in. I have a councelor keeping me on the right track. I think this is going to be okay. I am optimistic it will someday be great.
I know it's cliche but it just takes time and patience. You will still have your ups and downs but remember when the downs come, it is temporary.
Continue thinking and believing in goodness and it will come to you.... time and patience is vital to heal.... like the wound scar up a bit and treat it tenderly for awhile while you move along in your life. Happy to hear family and friends have been a great support too. Without that I'd be drowning myself.
Peace.
If I knew that sooner, I'd come home and throw beer cans at my ex wife all day and yell at her. She might have stayed home.
Hang in there, it will get better.