Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Over a year ago, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. We decided to stay friends (against the advice of all of my friends because they knew I still had feelings for him). He and I spent a lot of time together, and I think a part of me was hoping we would get back together. He has also been depressed for pretty much the entire time I have known him, having ups and downs. I tried to help as best as I could, and kept insisting he see a professional, but he refused. He started seeing a new girl, and it hurt me a lot. So much so that I became very sad myself and started talking to a therapist. The girl eventually broke things off with him because she didn't like that he was friends with me, and he didn't stop being friends with me as she asked. Throughout all of this, all of my friends were concerned for my well-being...hated that I was in such pain. I finally decided that it would be best for both of us that we stop being friends. This has made him very sad, and has made his depression worse. He and I haven't seen each other in a while, and today he texted asking if it was really over. I explained that as much as I care about him, we weren't good for each other, and that we would inadvertently sabotage any future relationships we would have. He is feeling depressed and alone....I was his only friend. I feel guilty and sad for leaving the friendship, and I don't want him to be in pain, but I think it is better for both of us this way.
I have since started dating someone...I really like this guy, and I hope it progresses into something serious. I am getting my life back on track, starting to feel happy again.
But I can't shake this sad/guilty feeling about leaving the friendship with my ex. I know I did the right thing, and all my friends support my decision.
I guess I am not really sure what I am asking...a part of me just wanted to get it out.
I guess I am asking what to do about how I am feeling. I guess it's just about letting time heal all wounds?
And doing the right thing for you. His issues are his
To deal with, not yours. You can only fix and control
Yourself not anyone else, thats a hard life lesson to
Learn.
Stay in your own hula hoop and self focus Especially
now in your new relationship and learn from the Past
And go forward without regret, guilt or shame.
I would keep up with your therapist and get as emotionally
Healthy as you can just for you and no one else, HUGS
I know I did the right thing, but he's making it harder on both of us. Maybe because he knows I care about him, he thinks that I will change my mind.
I mean he was ok with breaking up with me, ok with getting a new girlfriend, but now that the shoe is on the other foot, he's having trouble.
I'm trying to stay strong and not let this get me down.
With the healing process. People use it for breakups
And abuse cases. It lets you heal and detach from
Them after a breakup.
Then your journey is all About you and your healing
and growth, he might Be in your story but thats all.
Grieving your losses brings On pain and you can not
carry Him or his issues they are his to bear not yours,
keep Up with your own therapy, HUGS