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Somerdad34 07/14/2008

Every year at this time, my family goes to Ocean City, MD, because we own a timeshare there. Well, this year, I am not there. In fact, I am at my desk "working". All I keep thinking about, is what I am supposed to be doing right now in OC. I am thinking about the beach, sand, waves, dolphins, playing with the kids, boogie boarding, etc...

I really miss it. I miss playing with the kids at the beach. I always look forward to going. It is the highlight of the year for me. My family always have a great time in OC, MD. They are having fun right now and I am not there, I am not even missed.

I am taking the day off on wednesday and go down the shore. I don't know if I am going by myself or with a friend. Most likely its going to be by myself.

My question, are you still planning on going on vacation?

deleted_user 07/14/2008

Don't bet on the fact that you are not missed. I'm sure they do miss you.

deleted_user 07/14/2008

So why does she get to carry on the "family tradition" and you don't? Why can't you plan a "family" vacation for you and the kids?

deleted_user 07/14/2008

SHE may not miss you but I am sure the kids do

deleted_user 07/14/2008

Ha - I was just writing a post about going away with my kids tomorrow - vacation? Nah, couldn't call it that, don't have the $$ any more for that stuff, but we are going away to the Falls - whooppee!! Will you have the kids to yourself for any time that you can begin to make new memories with them?

Somerdad34 07/14/2008

Hey Sock:

Good point and good question. I don't have an answer for you. I just agreed to whatever she wanted, I was in a vulnerable state and I just wanted to make her happy.

In hindsight, I should have fought for it.

I now have to start my own "family summer tradition". Any thoughts.

deleted_user 07/14/2008

How old are your kids? Age and sex, please. Where do you live? Do you have $$ to spend?

Somerdad34 07/14/2008

Hi my kids: 2 boys, 4 and 8. one 10 year old girl. I live in central NJ.

hurtinandhealin2560 07/14/2008

Hi Somerdad,

I know the feeling. Stbx and I would go to Lake Erie each summer around our anniversary. I'm not going this summer. Too many memories and no $$.

I'm sure your kids miss you, and I think you just have to start creating new memories. I have a folder on my computer now called My Brand New Life and I put all kinds of pictures in it when I'm doing something fun and creating new memories.

Set a new vacation date for you and the kids and get out there and have fun!

Peace and hugs.

deleted_user 07/14/2008

Ok old enough to do lots of neat things. Do they like history? My kids loved the Civil War and I took them loads of places where they could relive it. If not, have you been to Cape Cod? Sorta the same as Ocean City, but it would be your new place together.

deleted_user 07/14/2008

GREAT idea Sandysan! History is really inexpensive also. Last year we took our 9 year old to Valley Forge and he had a blast listening to the audio tour in our car. We stopped and he got to act like he was lighting the cannons. We drove out to Atlantic City and let him play at the beach. Now I know nothing about your OC and I'm from Texas and don't have a beach near me so Atlantic City was VERY nice for us. I thought the NJ shore was one of the nicest I have ever seen. Anyway, definitely look into the History sites. We also did Boston a couple of years ago and saw where Washington gathered the troops. Good Luck!

deleted_user 07/14/2008

Take them somewhere new, what to a mountain area? I took my kids on vacation a month ago and had an absolute blast. We all wish we were still there.

Camping??

deleted_user 07/14/2008

I am in the same boat, my son's in Ocean City, New Jersey from 07/03 to 08/03 with Grandma. Was the one vacation we went as a family every year. I kind of missing it right now, but I know it's his mom and I should not go. Funny thing is I was envited for a week of it and did not. He was not offered, but he was not planning to anyways.

I should have went, but feel funny seeing all his family there, since he grow up there.
Most of all I miss my son, kind of feel out of place in the adult world. I tried last week to go out and had fun. I like it, but feel strange about the whole single thing and out of place.

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