I'm on good terms with my ex's family (most think he's a dunderhead for what he's done). I send cards, visit, attend baby and bridal showers, etc.

I think a letter would be a nice gesture.

How about something a little "lighter" than a letter? Perhaps one of those "I've been thinking about you" greeting cards.

If you know you will still be on good terms with her, than go for it. I know that if my ex even attemted contact with my grandmother she would tear him a new a hole. She is so ornery, I love that lady!

I know that I would be on good terms with her since the split wasn't because of anything I did, and courier I really like the card idea. I am into rubberstamping so I probably even have a couple cards already made lying around somewhere.

She'd probably love to hear from you. :-)

Two years post break-up, I am still in touch with my ex's lovely aunt, who I'd been close with. She is recovering from breat cancer, and I check in on her periodically to see show she is doing.

(No contact whatsoever with his odd parents, whom I was not close to!)

And, I have renewed contact with his 21-year-old daughter (she initiated contact with me).

Both are e-mail-only connections, and I think that is probably the best way for us at this time.

It's still painful for me to be in touch with the aunt and daughter, because of all the memories and reminders of what I lost, but I'd rather be in touch with them than have them out of my life completely.

I think whatever way feels right to you, his grandmother will be thrilled to hear from you.

I can't think of a reason why you should not get in touch with her.

No, it wouldn't

Go for it!

If you felt you had a good relationship with her prior to the breakup, why not?

Worst case scenario: She sends you a nasty gram telling you to leave her alone, in which case, you know exactly where you stand.

Take care and good luck!