oooops should read Maryland to Florida haha

Ending a relationship is a process that goes through many stages. It is possible she has not fully come to terms that it is over and therefore has not been able to change her status.

You also need to go through the process.

As for FB, my general rule in life, if you are not more certain than uncertain, in general it does no harm to wait a bit. Generally the answer to what you need to do becomes clear with a bit of space.

Thank you Karen....that makes sense. Time will tell and I will wait for now.

yeah, as i was reading i was wondering what happened to Florida ...

what is this separate ways FOR NOW stuff? you have to be decisive, Ranger, or she will play you like a fiddle. send her a message that says that you will defriend her in 24 hours so that you can pursue a brand new love life without her in it.

I think you need to defriend her so you can move on and so can she. By staying friends, she will be able to read all about your life and know who you're with, which will likely hurt her more than defriending her would.

I agree with Faithful--send her a gentle message that basically says you are unfriending her so you both can move on with your lives.

Good luck. So sorry you're struggling.

I agree with the others about sendng a gentle message. If not, you can block her from your wall for privacy reasons.

i think you should do whats best for you instead of waiting to determine what she is going to do. dont let her actions about taking your relationship status off be the deciding factor - take back some control - you decide whats best for you. dont allow her to.

and stop checking her facebook- it will drive you crazy. i speak from experience.

Sounds like she want to have her cake and eat it too. She knew about the move, she should not have waffled at the last minute and then expect you to move to a new city without her and not go out and have fun! Although she may be torn, I think you need to move on. At least let her know she cannot expect what she is expecting. If you really love her, set a time line. Maybe she can come to visit so the fear goes away? Did you make this decision together, has she ever been where you are going?

I might freak out too at the last minute, but, I would see it through or let you go, however, that is just me...I am adventurous by nature and not afraid to move to a new place.

I don't think "unfriending" her suddenly is very nice. That sends a clear message without really having to confront them. Just tell her you want to be free, don't use it as a manipulation tool, don't unfriend her, but ask her to change her settings since you are no longer in a relationship.

If you change your status to "single", doesn't that automatically take you off of her "in a relationship" status?

No it doesn't Anna. I've unfriended my soon to be ex and he's still listed as in a relationship on his page. I know as soon as he goes to single it's going to be like a knife in the heart. But I've already done that on my page to make a statement so I can't blame him if he does the same...

I am still "friends" with my stbx on FB.

I decided to deactivated my account entirely (all you have to do is log back in to reactivate) and told my family and friends I just needed a break from it so there are no hurt feelings.

Reality is, I can't handle seeing him or knowing what he's up too right now. So this way I am sparing my own feelings.

Facebook has become bitter sweet for me... it can be just as unfriendly and devastating as it can be friendly and fun.

Try deactivating for about a month and when she starts to ask around what happened to you she will soon discover that she wasn't being singled out by you but that you were only taking a break...

I hope things work out for you!

List your status as single.

Block her and move on. Sounds harsh, but she has stalled the relationship and left you in limbo. Worry about yourself now.

I am sorry for your hurting heart. When I saw this kind of thing happening to my friends and relatives, I decided to just take my relationship status off my wall period. I wont list anyone unless I am walking down the aisle with him.

I would hide your wall from her and hide her status updates from your view. the others have good suggestions too.

I think you should make a clean break. If in a few weeks time you BOTH feel you could start again, then fine.

I have an ex who shares about 50 or so of my friends and family on facebook!! When I decided it wasn't going to work between us, I let him know I was taking him and his family off my facebook friends list as I felt it was what I needed to do in order for us both to move on. For a while he seemed popping up everywhere! Eventually the message has got through that it's not healthy for either one of us.

I am now in a new relationship, and am careful about what I say to joint friends. If I ever feel like my ex is nosing into my new life using facebook, I will also use the block app.

Give it two weeks... if she's still jerking you around, tell you that you can't put your entire life on hold for her... change your status. It is your choice about defriending her, but that would be the next logical step once you change status.