Who cares? That's his problem. If he's a neibor and he feels "violated" "So sorry Sir" we'll try not to let the dogs out again if they made poo poo on your wonderful lawn". Other than that Sir... " I don't believe a thing you said cuz I already know I'm fantastic and look great, I'm a good mother and I always try to the best person I can". Maybe he was having a bad day and was pissy about something completely different. But first words, Who Cares?

Unfortually, that's his normal self. Which is why I divorced him, I was tired of the emotional and physical abuse. Even after he moved out, he would come in the middle of the night and open my doors, and when I was out of town took things from my house. He convinced my family that I am crazy, and he wasn't doing it, but my boyfriend knew exactly what was taken, and also sees him stalking my house. My neighbors all look out for me, and have spotted him in my yard.

I think people are starting to see what's up. His mom has called me a few times to let me know his financial problems, and I told her it's not my problem. He left me with $1,000's of credit card debt, which I finally paid off. I never really noticed his $70 lunches and $200 dinners, he said they were work related, but he didn't let me see his check stubs, they weren't work related. Now if I get a credit card bill over $200, it's rare. He doesn't pay me support, and the only child support he pays is 1/2 our sons tuition and cell phone, and even then he deducts for clothing. I don't argue, and I don't care, I try not to make waves, even though everyone thinks he should be paying more.

I try to stay out of his life, but it's hard living so close. No matter what time I walk the dogs, I always seem to run into him walking his dog.

The man I talked to last night assured me I won't end up alone., and my boyfriend reassures me constantly.

If there is any type of person that I can't stand, it is people who own rental properties.

Those people are real assholes.

If I were you, I would move. Your home environment needs to change and fast. Think about it. Your home is supposed to have the greatest vibe that you can create. Your neighborhood is supposed to feel wonderful.

And, to live next door like that? OMG

It's actually a place my parents helped us buy when we got married, so we took care of my parents. After my mom passed, my father remarried, so we moved into his house, and he eventaully willed it to me.

My ex doesn't live next door, I fought for that. The two women who live there are great. One is someone I grew up with, the other was one of the teachers from our grade school.

I try to avoid taking the dogs out when he's there, but he was there over 3 hours, and they needed to get out.

I love my house, don't really see moving, which my boyfriend hates. He owns a house on 5 acres, of which they are changing his zoning to commercial, and when that goes through, he want's to buy a farm. I'm not a farm girl.

will you ever know why he flipped out? probably not. he is your ex for a reason.

it's a shame that you and your boyfriend are so out of sync. one a farm boy, one a city girl.

maybe if you two get lots of input and ideas, you can think of a place and an environment where you both would be very happy.

i'd hate to see a good love go down the drain because both of you are too stuck in where you want to live.

good luck to you both. :)

I have properties(commercial) that sit right next to each other. I live in one and rent out the house and property next door. My ex was the slum landlord....I turned those properties around....fixed them up and have them up to code. I treat my tenants like gold and check their places of rent out daily to make sure everything is running properly because I care about how they live. Not all landlords are assholes...many of them are....but not me.
Juch...if your ex is stalking you and tresspassing...can you get a restraining order put on him? Can you put up a privacy fence between the properties?

Ugh! The thought of living next to my EX makes me want to vomit. Other than that, EFF HIM for saying no one will love you! Jealous much? I would shake my head, flip him the bird, and walk on. You are too, too fly to get brought down by some lame ass ex BS.

((MsBlank)))

My parents owned rental properties, it's how they made their Canadian Dream come true. They weren't assholes either. There's nothing about investing in real estate that "makes" anyone an asshole.

My father turned the garage into his home into a small apt.,, so he could have a larger one. We stopped renting it out 11 yrs ago, so daughter could have her own bedroom, and turned the living room into a play room. My daughter moved away for college, so I now rent it out to a wonderful woman. Every time we talk, she always says how lucky she is that I rented to her. I talk to her a few days a week to see if she needs anything, and if I don't see her car move all day, I check in with her to see if she's OK

My ex has pissed off his share of tenants, not fixing things in a timely manner, withholding security dep. money for minor things, bugs and mice in the house, and upkeep outside is a mess.

His tenants are quiet, but one constantly was calling about something, so I'm sure she's still contacting him all the time. They were little things, so he would blow them off.