Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
i was in a relationship for a year in a half with an amazing man, truly thee best guy i ever dated, but i kept using the excuse that one of my ex's had screwed me over i was angry and unfortunately my current ex suffered for it. I cheated on him and he still stayed with me but my attitude towards everything was what broke us up eventually with time. I know that i am the only one to blame for the hurt i caused him and the hurt im going through, i broke up with him over a stupid argument although i feel that he was getting tired of it but i understand why. anyways three months have passed and its crazy to think how much in three months ive attempted to change ive been seeing a therapist to try and work through my anger issues and infidelity issues. i reached out to him thinking he would be happy that i took the initiative he always wanted but i was wrong. instead i got an email saying how upset he was with me for making him feel like shit all the time and how i never owned up to the things i did ( which i get why he would say that) anyways i did everything to win him back but he blocked me and wants absoluetly nothing to do with me. Again i understand i put myself in this situation but it doesnt diminish how much it hurts. ive never been in this much pain and ive had some other serious relationships. i only have 1 friend and she doesnt always have time to listen to me vent so i bottle things up and tend to explode. that fact that someone who went from worshiping me no longer can stand the sight of a text from me kills me. i definately help
And fix yourself and hopefully be better, healthier, stronger
and more healed for your next new relationship.
There is nothing good or healthy i could say to my ex now,
So no conversation is best and for me to stay no contact so
That i can Continue to heal
Keep working on your own deeper issues, glad that You are
in therapy and facing yourself. Let yourself grieve your losses,
time Does take time. There is a lot of grieving that goes on when
in the recovery process, i also attend alanon. HUGS
oh how i can relate to you.
i ruined the best relationship because of my insecurities.
it is killing me.
i am in total pain as well...and the regret is awful.
at least we are not alone in our tremendous suffering.....
hugs to you.
I'm here if ever you need
What's happened is you've had a guy in your life, treated him bad, he's had a gutsful and worked you out. He's then given you the kick. This has triggered a very primaeval reaction in you, of realising that you can be dumped. It's not your conscience: your conscience would have kicked in earlier. This is a kneejerk consequence reaction: you can be rejected for who and what you are. It's really good for you to find this out when you're young. And to realise that people can get rid of you too. That you're not the centre of their world; but only your own.
But you're now trying to correct your flaws in order to win him back. This is a zero. An absolute zero. He has rejected you in a final way. He gave you all the chances he was going to. You just didn't realise that you were using them up. He has worked you out, and you've had to grow and learn as a consequence.
If this new you is real then you can have a good relationship with another man. But you're going to have to wave goodbye to this one. This one is now gone, and your bad feelings are your own burden to bear.
It's all learning. It's all growing. It's life, really.
You want to keep your man...DON'T CHEAT! Grass is not always greener.
The only thing you can ever change is yourself, and good effort for doing that.