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EVEN IN DREAMS

rbsingle1959
rbsingle1959
I wrote not too long ago on this topic i think but here it goes again. I am continuosly having dreams with my ex spouse. I dont even think of the jerk when i am going to sleep so this is pisting me off already. I had a dream he was here in NY and i actually saw him in the dream and was speaking to him about i dont know what. but then i said "are you going back to Florida and he said "Yes i really love her" and then i said "thats all i needed to hear" then again last nite. Somebody was celebrating a party for me and my surprise was him. He walked in and I just looked at him. I didnt cry or feel anything but i was shocked. he just smiled but didnt say a word; he was really skinny and looked young but there was no real conversation between us. Why do i keep dreaming of him around me here in NY when he is so far and there is no contact and the dam relationship is over for crying out loud.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it is the healing process going on inside of you. you have been through a very traumatic experience and it takes time to emotionally recover. it is the subconscious mind working to heal you in its mysterious ways. when we are emotionally and spiritually overloaded, our subconscious minds will step in to help us cope in any way that it thinks is appropriate. it won't last forever. just be glad that your mind is working well while you are asleep and that you are slowly healing whether you can perceive that or not.

i still have dreams about my ex too. mostly they are short pieces of our conversations where she said something that hurt or angered me and i did not speak up as i should have. now, those will be bouncing around in my mind until eventually they fade away. there is a big price to pay when we are too nice and do not speak up for ourselves and our position on things.