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terrondt 09/08/2011

Hi everyone. well i was home last nightwhen my estranged wife showed up. She does not stay home most of the time(stays with her new man she had a affiar with) except to wash clothes, feed pets or shower. Anyway, she texts me 2 nights ago askin m to feed the pets becuase she is in pain(from a old job injury). offcourse i agreed to do it because i love our animals not so much as doing it for her. i don't like being around her anyway. she texts me and thanks me for it. and stated she still in the future wants to e my friend. i texted her back stating giving the situation of bad feelings, deception and mistrust between us i can promis a freindship. for the past week she has been trying to make nice badly with small talk but i am having none of it. seems she is having a guiltt trip of something. on day she trahes me and say we can never be friends and still trys to kiss my backside. i am not having her headgames.

deleted_user 09/08/2011

My ex asked to stay friends, too. I told him I don't pick liars for friends. I have to be able to respect my friends and i don't respect him. Just do what's right for you!

terrondt 09/08/2011

sorry my grammer is shaky. i did not promise to ever want to be her friend after she cheated on me twice. why is she doing this? asking me to forgive her over and over again. it's still raw and recent she left me and she expect me to throw a good bye party on the divorce?

terrondt 09/08/2011

thanks naturechick. thats what im leaning towards.

Mossyhorn 09/08/2011

You have to do what you are happy with, but I would cut her off clean, she wants her cake and eat it too, ask her where her boyfriend washes his clothes, or better yet throw her clothes in the yard and tell her where they are if she wants them.

She isn't doing you right, and I have beent there, believe me, cut her off, show her that there are consequences to decisions.

deleted_user 09/08/2011

because it was be easier for her, and ease some of her guilt, if you two were still friends. She might even get to small talk with you, get you to feed the pets..whatever she needs from you. So it serves her two purposes - to continue to have your support and favors....and to make her feel less guilty. Take care of YOU. I was cheated on too and what she is asking is not reasonable. I continue to remind my ex that we are not friends. I unfriended him on FB, too. :)

terrondt 09/08/2011

when i unfriended her on facebook she flipped on facebook. i was told she was putting pics of her and her man on it afterwords.

deleted_user 09/08/2011

You have to be okay with whatever her reaction is. Let her put her pics up - that says way more about her, than you. It obviously drove her crazy you unfriended her. :) My ex brought it up and said "OUCH". lol.

terrondt 09/08/2011

thanks you naturechick for the advise. i feel better of it now. also thanks mossyhorn also.

bigguy3 09/08/2011

You are allowing her to use you. She cheated and moved out with her new man .... except to com by and wash her clothes? WTF, doesn't the new guy have a laundromat close by? I'd tell her NO MORE and change your locks.

deleted_user 09/08/2011

it could be possible that her and her man are having problems and is trying to worm her way back in with you. just a thought...its possible

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