Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It's been nearly 8 months since I spoke to her, she left me in my time of need, after 1 year of marriage. I'll never know the reasons why, I will speculate forever how my "best friend and soul" mate so easily discarded the love, memories and family we built together.
But, 8 months of devastation, beating myself up mentally and emotionally, broken dreams, hopes dashed, sleepless nights is enough. And that's only the tip of the iceberg. Yah, none of us is perfect, we all made our mistakes. We would never make those same mistakes, would ask for, beg for forgiveness if we only could. I'm sorry for my part. But, for those of us who loved unconditionally, who meant what we said when we took our vows, were loyal, loving, supportive...it's high time we take control of our lives and pull ourselves up by the boot straps and value who we are/were.
How about a little affirmation of why we are glad we are who we are, what we have become, the changes we have made for the better, rather than who they have become. What can we say each morning that convinces us that we are better off without them? Can we vent a little without going over the top here?
1) I am thankful, that after 1 year of marriage, I did not steal all of somebody else's premarital assets (cash), their life savings, earned through generations of hard work, intended to secure the future of my children. After you said it was not yours, that you had no right to it, that you did not earn it, that you would give it all back, and it's now gone for good, frittered away for your own selfish "needs"...I'm glad that my integrity is in tact, that I loved unconditionally, supported everybody by being unselfish, and stuck by my principles.
Anybody else?
But, 8 months of devastation, beating myself up mentally and emotionally, broken dreams, hopes dashed, sleepless nights is enough. And that's only the tip of the iceberg. Yah, none of us is perfect, we all made our mistakes. We would never make those same mistakes, would ask for, beg for forgiveness if we only could. I'm sorry for my part. But, for those of us who loved unconditionally, who meant what we said when we took our vows, were loyal, loving, supportive...it's high time we take control of our lives and pull ourselves up by the boot straps and value who we are/were.
How about a little affirmation of why we are glad we are who we are, what we have become, the changes we have made for the better, rather than who they have become. What can we say each morning that convinces us that we are better off without them? Can we vent a little without going over the top here?
1) I am thankful, that after 1 year of marriage, I did not steal all of somebody else's premarital assets (cash), their life savings, earned through generations of hard work, intended to secure the future of my children. After you said it was not yours, that you had no right to it, that you did not earn it, that you would give it all back, and it's now gone for good, frittered away for your own selfish "needs"...I'm glad that my integrity is in tact, that I loved unconditionally, supported everybody by being unselfish, and stuck by my principles.
Anybody else?
2) I'm thankful for almost 8 months of sobriety since she dumped me and also my commitment to the gym. I'm thankful that I lost my drinking buddy, along with all of the others. Because with them in my life, I wouldn't be long for this life.
Congrats kbb, keep it up, and still working on indifference too, I just need to find and hear reasons why we are better off without them and re-discover self worth!