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KD04 08/30/2017

I just recently, 3 days ago, got my heart broken pretty badly. I did not do anything wrong, but he says that he doesn't feel the same way that he used to about me. It was completely and totally out of the blue.. and I keep trying to ask him what I did to make him feel this way and he will not respond to me. I felt like dying, and decided it would be best for me to drop my classes for this semester and go be with my mom for awhile during my grieving. However, I still feel very alone and can't eat or sleep. We also work together, and my bosses were nice enough to let me take a personal break for a while but I am very nervous to return. I'm trying not to let this break up destroy me but it is doing just that. I have been drinking heavily to try and numb the pain but it just feels like it gets worse. I'm very much so still in love with him, and what hurts the most is that I always find myself in really toxic, abusive relationships. This one was the first person I have ever loved that was nothing but perfect for me. Everything about the relationship was perfect in my eyes, but clearly not in his. And there is nothing I can do to change his mind.

Does anyone know this feeling of worthlessness/have any encouragement or advice to help me cope with this issue in a healthy manner?

CantLetGo 08/30/2017

First I will say I am so sorry for what you are going through. I went through almost the same thing 28 days ago.... I'm better.... barely. You mentioned school so I'm going to assume you are still young, not that that makes the pain easier but I 100% promise you, it will get better and you will find someone right for you. In my experience, and I'm 48yrs old, the guy who broke up with me was the same as yours, meaning finally a man who treated me right, etc..... I will give you something to think about... maybe, the only reason this person cam into your life is so you can see what you want and what you actually deserve in a relationship. He was just someone along your journey that is nowhere near complete but he taught you something about yourself...... That you deserve more! I know it doesn't feel true now, heck, it doesn't feel true to me either, but logically I and you should know that it IS true.
I have a few glasses of wine pretty regularly to try and numb the pain but the thing is, you have to feel it. If you put it off, it'll still get you later.

Stay strong my friend!!!! ((((( hugs ))))))

drewemc 08/30/2017

I am going through the same thing at work as well....but throw having a child together into the mix. At first it was very very hard to cope and deal with it daily. I'm not gonna lie I felt the same way that you did. Things will get better though. All I have to do is turn right and she sits 20 feet away....it sucks but I've started to figure out what I can do to deal with it in my own way. You just need to keep strong. If he is already checked out like my gf was there is no turning back and you need to tell yourself that for your own sanity cuz trust me it will drive you crazy. Everyday when I get to work in the morning I go into the bathroom, look in the mirror and tell myself "You're gonna have a good F*&^ing day." And guess what it works!....There are some days that are still bad from time to time for me but it is getting better......just so you can tell the time frame this has been gong on since May and she just moved out 3 weeks ago.....Let me know what I can do to help. I learned that reaching out is the best way to try to make sense of what is going on. We are here for you... hugs.

Broken9 08/30/2017

Take a deep breath, what you're feeling is normal... You're grieving a loss, and that is never easy... Drinking is not the answer, it can make things worse. Go see your doctor, and get medication if you need them, and start working on you. A counselor can help, or this group is a good step. Hang in there, it will get better one step at a time, but there's no quick fix, you have to go through the grief of the loss before It gets better.. stay strong, you will be ok in time...

Sadpanda01 08/30/2017

I've been in that situation before. I was in a relationship for 5 years and when he left his reason was literally, "I don't know." It was very hard on me until one day I decided not to let him have control over my life and emotions. Let yourself feel those feelings and cry and then take back control over your happiness.

run2bfree 08/30/2017

You can do this and with time it will get easier and then eventually a distant memory. Just focus one day at a time, makes it easier

Shaner23 08/31/2017

I know it's so hard, it's the worst. I would give anything to have him back, there is never good enough reason my husband of 20 years, 2 kids left me for another woman me and the kids are devastated not sleeping not eating and he's acting fine. So hard...

KD04 08/31/2017

Thank you guys so much for the kind words. Hopefully one day I will be stronger and get my life back. Hugs to all of you ❤️

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