Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today is the worst for me evertone. I have been waking up at 3:00am every morning think of him and the OW. He has been 3 months and i have not spoken to him over a month. thisd is his fourth time leaving. I should be us to this but i'm not. I can give great advice but can't give it to myself. Just tell me when will it stop hurting. 11 years of marriage is long to just say forget everything, but who knows what is on his mind. Should I try to see and demand money for the divorce. You know we passes each other on the street and he was just staring at me. He looked suprised, but I kept on going. I was doing fine until then. The walls feel as if they are caving in. Please anyone just talk to me. I know I will make it, but at this point, this second I can't deal with this anymore. Why do good peopl have to hurt all the time? Please someone talk to me.
First of all, breathe! The dreams are all a part of the grieving process. Perhaps you need to talk to your doctor to get some anti-depressants or sleep meds. Many of us have had to do that.
When will it stop hurting? When you move through the grieving process to acceptance. You have to accept what has happened, that it's over. I know it's hard, but for many that's when the real healing begins to start.
Before asking for money, I would talk to an attorney first. Stbx's have a funny way of becoming mean and nasty when you start talking about money. See an attorney first, so you know how to handle things.
Sending you loads of hugs. You will survive. Keep talking to us here.
YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS
its normal.. its hard, but now its about YOU not him or the ow anymore. FOCUS ON YOU!!!
HUGS
I def. want to echo what's already been said about counseling and anti-depressants.
I know the feeling of waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to go back to sleep, your mind racing, the pain overwhelming.
For such moments, I have found Ativan to be most helpful. This is a *temporary* drug -- most doctors will not prescribe more than two weeks' worth, because it's easily addictive.
The great thing about it is that a single pill works within 30 minutes (you do not need to build up to it like with anti-depressants) and lasts up to a day. It really takes the edge off.
Ativan got me through my very worst moments.
Hugs to you.
HUGS