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K8tlyn820
K8tlyn820

The initial shock of my husband asking for a divorce is wearing off and the sad reality is beginning to kick in. I'm still finding it so hard to think three weeks ago we were sharing our lives together and now there is nothing. Of course initially when I got the news I was extremely upset. I wanted to know why and how he was doing handling everything. Well I guess the nice guy he was pretending to be went away. He told me has was a 5 not really anything and that he just prefer to not talk to me for a while. He claimed our divorce isn't about someone else, but I just can't believe how quickly it is all happening. Hearing the news had helped me get things done, and stop calling him for the time being. I have not spoke to him, but I just miss being around him. I know things take time and every relationship is different but I just can't imagine ever feeling ok with this situation. He put our apartment up for rent( with my permission) but it will no longer be ours by the end of the month. I fear I may actually never hear or see him again, and the saddest part is that I want to. He was my best friend. 

speechless1000
speechless1000
If you don't have a child with him & the marriage is over I'd say you have a much better chance of recovering from this. If my husband & I didn't have a child, almost 5 months in I'd be a lot closer to being ok instead of having too see him 3 times a week. I know this is an utter shit stage but the least contact you can have the better. Like ripping off a plaster. I hope you are ok & believe me it gets worse before it gets better. I'm not better but sadly this is my 2nd divorce so I know there will be a light, I'm just not that far into the tunnel yet. X
aj2124
aj2124
I'm sorry for your pain. I'm sure this is a very confusing situation. What were things like in your relationship leading up to the point where he asked for a divorce? I think if you were try to pretend that you don't miss him, you would only be delaying the healing process. In my own divorce, I realized I had to turn to God and re-establish that my foundation was in Him and not a relationship. I hope you will consider doing the same no matter what the outcome of this relationship may be. Praying for you.
K8tlyn820
K8tlyn820
Things in our relationship leading up to him asking for a divorce were not great. We fought a decent amount. He wanted to spend less and less time with me. I knew he was pushing me away staying at work hours and hours later each week. He usually came home after drinking a lot, so when I asked about why he didn't want to have any quality time it would spark a fight. I know that I was spending a lot of time questioning what was happening in our relationship and being sad about it. When we did spend time together, things to me at least seemed good, that maybe all the tears I shed From our fights and his callousness finally made him realize that he wanted to make things better. I know that I miss him and I still love him. Im having a hard time relating to people I know and even with other going through divorce and seperation just because our relationship wasn't like many others with children. It just now seems like an emotional rollercoaster. Some moments when I think about some of last weeks of our relationship, I quickly think that maybe it was for the best. Then I think about other moments when we were happy and I get very sad again. I am seeing a therapist to help me through everything, but hearing stories of other people are helping even when I can't 100% relate.